You’re in bed with your beloved.
You’ve been feeling connected.
Things are getting juicy.
Exciting.
Sensual.
Hot.
But there’s a little something that grabs you and pulls you out of connection.
It looks like a dissatisfaction.
Perhaps annoyance.
A complaint.
And the sex and lovemaking that you so deeply desire and crave suffers.
And so does the love and emotional connection.
Like what happened to my clients Jane and Jim.
They really loved each other.
But they didn’t know how to navigate.
And so they’d say things we are all capable of saying.
Things like, “I wished you’d touch me differently…( or) you need to be more loving and not do that…”
She’d be hurt..upset…feel rejected.
And he’d withdraw.
And they’d try to talk through it… but they couldn’t get past feeling so activated.
And from years of experience of dealing with trauma, I know activation and triggering are located deep in the body and cannot be resolved in the mind, although many try and end up feeling frustrated.
I won’t let my couples do the same thing with me that’s not working at home.
So I invited each of them to begin with simple grounding into the root of their bodies.
Orienting into the earth grounds is enough to get out of our head. And not only that, if we are dealing with sexuality, we are dealing with our root chakra, so we need to learn how to drop down there, and find alrightness in ourselves without the mind fixating on the problem.
And from there, it was effortless…because space opened…
And in that space, I invited them to sit next to each other.
Gently touching arms and legs together. And to gently feel both support and resistance from each other.
This helps neutralize negative mental charge.. and also gives the body a huge transmission that in conscious contact both support and resistance can help neutralize the situation, which it did.
And from neutrality…
Where space got freed up…
And healthy contact and resistance happening..
The real conversation could open..and a real connection about desires and requests were made, exchanges happening freely.
And this allowed, over time, the healing to happen.
And their sexual connection to be creatively restored from an empowered, but more importantly embodied place for both of them.
They reported feeling satisfied, were having way more frequent and juicy lovemaking, this now felt hotter, and they were definitely more in love than ever. Their eyes say it all.
It can do this for you too.
If you’re willing to go deeper, to your roots like this.. and hang out long enough to get what the edges need to soften, deepen and open.
If you’re ready for that, share with me ONE thing you can do this week to start to soften at the edgy places when it comes to sexual connection not going ideally. For me, I really enjoy slowing my breath waaaaay down to help my nervous system relax and clear away all activation.
I’d love to hear what you’re sending would really help you.
And… I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.
