When I first saw them, Bill and Mara were so reactive, I wasn’t sure what was going on.
But I knew I had to help them quick, or they were gonna blow up and split apart.
“You always defend our son and let him not clean up after himself, instead of taking my side, and us standing united,” Mara lashed out angrily and with deep hurt.
Bill struggled to keep his composure, but underneath he felt guilty, and was defensive because he was being attacked, so he did what many of us can do, he lashed back.
“Mara, if he wants to wait till when he feels like it, that’s fine and you shouldn’t be so tight about it and give the kid a break.”
I took a deep breath, hoping to slow things down in the room, long enough to help them do the same.
Or at least start to make a little more space,
to hear each other,
to see what was actually going on,
to get to the bottom of it,
to see their inner parts in it,
to see what was actually being touched that they both had no idea of,
to get to the real healing conversation,
and integrate the disowned pieces of their emotional selves,
and get connected again,
and restore family balance,
which leads to hot sex, connection and love.
And that is what we did.
Over and over.
With patience,
With space,
With understanding,
With care,
With depth and openness,
And a whole lotta love.
on REPEAT.
Until they became CONNECTED.
And BIGGER than their triggers and saved their sweet little family.
Anyone know someone like Bill and Mara?
And how they got through it?
Or what you’d offer them from your own experience?
Because couples like Bill and Mara are everywhere.
Maybe you’re just like them and there’s no shame if you are,
Maybe about to blow apart, or have another cold night apart, tossing in the sheets,
when you could be feeling close and connected and enjoying some hot nookie instead?
And if you’re like them, you know you HAVE to do something about it…
Because your precious love and relationship are at stake.
…your connection
…your happiness
…all the amazing sex you’re meant to have
…and the magic you’re meant to make together
…and the good times you’re meant to have
….and the fun times that’s meant to be with your kids, conflict free
…and the massive love you’re meant to enjoy and cherish and have a blast with
THIS.. this is what I’m seeing now with Bill and Mara.
They no longer have the grip on their positions about kids triggers.
They talk easily.
They connect on the edgy spots with care, creativity and ease.
They laugh.
They rejoice in conflicts being easy to navigate.
And the hot epic sex they’re having.. whoa it was smokin’ in the room those last few sessions.
–> And they’re doing it BECAUSE they looked at their relationship to their inner emotional parts, their patterns of thinking and acting with each other, which is EXACTLY what got them to the other side.
And I’m thrilled.
Another happy couple.
Free from drama-trauma triggers.
Who else is ready for this?
How would you have navigated this?
Or are you finally ready to navigate it yourself?
Do yourself, your relationship and your family a favor and let’s chat.
I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.
It’s time to do this.
What do you desire most in your relationship right now?
