One thing I’ve noticed with being of service to clients over the last three decades is how much the basics of relationship get dismissed as corny!
Or cliche’ so people discount it.
Why do you think people do that?
Truth is, we shouldn’t do that.
We need to trust the damn essence of all these things, like love, because they lead us down the royal road to what we all desire most.
Especially in relationship, love and how it happens (or doesn’t) is what I hear about all the time.
It’s also what I’ve focused on… and had to learn because honestly it just wasn’t that easy for me.
With some of you, I’ve shared that I got very LITTLE training on how to do solid hot sex, love and closeness relationship growing up.
I always knew I was destined for a love for the ages, for all time.. and I’m certainly living that now… but truthfully it wasn’t always that way.
The way that I had been taught was to disconnect from love and go to fear when I was triggered, to go to identification with some story.
And it was a well-grooved pattern that created more fear and feeling of lovelessness and then more desire for more love.. the wounds and injuries of wanting more love, needing more love, feeling unhappy about it not being there…
That was a hard time for both of us…and it was a sad time, and we thought it should be easy, but it really wasn’t.
I felt alone, afraid, unintelligent and a bit ashamed. And my hubby felt similar, which created a fearful, loveless funhouse hall of mirrors.
And then one day, the beautiful mystic that he is.. he brought home this gorgeous quote from saying from the great Indian sage,
Sri Nisargadatta,
“The mind creates the abyss, the heart crosses it.”
We had to take that in.. super deeply.
We’d talk about how to bring it forward.. the love.. the heart.. the care…
And bring it through absolutely every place where there was;
- separation between us,
- fear between us,
- conflict between us,
- edgy spots between us,
- blocks between us,
We had to keep going.. like sew it in everywhere.
We had to be vigilant, lest the old patterns arise with a vicious uprising.
We’d say, “just love, just here, just right now…”, maybe we spoke that like a thousand times.. or more..sometimes still do.
He brought me many loving gifts of flowers during that period of time. And told me all the things he loved about me, a lot!
I’d find out how he needed to be loved…and love him like that.
We asked that all places in us, between us and inside each of us that were separate from love, be brought inside of love’s embrace.
We’d ask,
How can we bring love into this place, where love feels small?
Or this place, where love feels dry?
Or this place, where things felt cool or cold?
Maybe these are things you can ask yourself, if you want more love in the places that are calling it for you.
The sweetness of taking this love into our thoughts, our feelings, our hearts, our bodies and our souls was profoundly healing. It brought us closer, much closer, in love, in closeness and in hot sex, for sure!
What a gift.
I want you to have it too!
What’s a way you’d like to experience greater love THIS week?
I’m going to see love as an image in my head, let it appear…and then meditate on it, bring it into my body and then let that inform everything. I’m super excited to feel this because I KNOW it’s only going to lead to goodness and yumminess.
