Author: Joanna Intara

Every day is a great day to practice becoming better at sex and lovemaking…

But most of us can get bogged down with that thing called LIFE.

Bills to be paid,
House to be cleaned up,
Businesses to be run,
Children to be cared for,
and teeth to be brushed…emails to be answered…

You get it…and you already know how buried and overwhelmed you can feel..

And if I’m honest.. it was SO hard to be stuck in the loop..

I could feel hurt, frustration, irritation, disconnected…sometimes blaming.

The things you do…

Because you’re a human…and you KNOW there’s meant to be more than this.

You just know it.. and you can’t deny it..

So let’s get #allthethings to do GOING…

and find the ONE time this week where you can start putting attention on this part of your relationship..

and time can’t be an excuse.

Doesn’t matter if it’s five minutes.

BEGIN somewhere!

And during your time, just begin to open up the discussion about how it’s all going with regard to hot sex and lovemaking…

There’s no right or wrong way to do it.

Just start naming and noticing together what’s going on.

You’re building awareness.

And trust.

And transparency.

And openness.

And connection.

And intimacy.

And ONLY good things can come from there.

Hot sex and love is built upon these foundations and giving it to a SPACE to;

Live..be heard…breathe…speak…ask for what’s needed…

State what’s desired…or what needs to be healed…

Tell us what your ONE commitment is this week for this?

It’s definitely been feeling juicy and hot this week as we dive into all the things that create hot sex…{ someone get me a feather fan seriously…}

..which no doubt, is needed for a fully satisfying relationship, especially for parents and couples too..

and what I love, is that I get to witness the couples and individuals in my practice flip the switch on the hot sex factor.. to get exactly the results they, and you.. crave.

like my client Les and Jamie did.. partnered for 9 years.. one kid.. thinking of another one…but wondering how the hell they were going to keep the balance.. suffering from unsizzling sex.. and nervous about what was next..

they were tired…both self employed.. valued success.. and valued being ‘woke’ as much as possible…they really had the best of intentions…

Like maybe you have…

And despite that, they ended up arguing…blaming.. and developing contempt (the #1 relationship killer, btw) for each other.

Not Good.

And Also,

Not necessary.

So we got to work.

And it was urgent..

For them to create:

• NON NEGOTIABLE date nights…overnights (fully supported by community).
• room for any and ALL conversations about sex, HOW to have more of it.
• and how to MAKE a lot more room for it..and to learn how to deeply value and enjoy it…
• a FULLY EXPRESSED space to connect on all desires and frequency.
• a SAFE SPACE to be heard and supported INTO doing the deep work to clear the obstacles to intimacy, hot sex, and the love and connection..{ which let’s face it.. most of us have despite our shiny insta photos…#ifwearebeinghonest

and they did…

following my guidance…

and with trust and openness…
being willing to go underneath their usual inner guards to the process and the material…

and yeah.. really get it back on track.. hotter than it was before…
…more frequent
…more satisfying
…more expansive…
…more exciting..
…and definitely more hot and steamy….

What’s the ONE thing you’d like more of this week?

It’s thrilling to witness these shifts.. client after client….and I’d love to be a co-creator of it with you…if you’re ready?

You are ready, aren’t you??

I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

I know we might still be getting to know each other a bit…and I’m loving your questions and appreciation of the high value I’m here to bring to you.. because nothing changes the world like couples who are having hot steamy sex, love and closeness…

The ripple effect out.. I’m telling you…

• kids happier
• love grown
• families closer
• work life – family flow FLOWIN’
• closeness, intimacy

Ahhh…it tastes so good…and sometimes people think of me.. how’d she do it?

So, I’m going to share with you…EXACTLY what I did.

You see, when I first met my hubby, I was only planning on having one child.

I didn’t felt it was my destiny this lifetime to have children, but when I met him, he told me one day, “there’s gonna be two.”

And it kinda freaked me out at the time…but I kinda also knew it was true, WITH HIM.

And we started to discuss parenting ideas, he said to me…”we come first…”

And at the time, I wasn’t sure…I said, “The kids come first.”

But then he explained the oxygen mask example… and I saw that if we actually didn’t prioritize time for loving and sexing and everything all in that…we’d sink..because we wouldn’t have what we needed at the core.

And then we went on with our lives, dating, moving in and buying a house together, getting married and before we knew it, two kids were here…and we were both exhausted and very underwhelmed with our sex life…. not the hot sex, love and closeness that we desired and had talked about those many moons ago when we first dated.

And that was SO not good…

And it hurt me, him, us…our family life was not in easy flow.

And I heard it from other Moms and Dads, and got how UNBELIEVABLY pervasive this is…

Can you believe we don’t talk about this enough??

What if we could…like we did…

We knew we had to:

• prioritize time for lovemaking
• learn how to plan for and be content with quickies
• be open to discussing our desires, big and small
• reconcile any childhood wounding around love, sex and closeness
• and be willing to be vulnerable, open and transparent about it all

and the HARDEST thing we HAD to learn to open up to…OMG, it was

so hard…the last thing I wanted to do
the one I had the most shame about…

But really, this was the LINCHPIN thing.. the thing that if we didn’t TAKE ACTION…we’d be in serious relationship jeopardy…as we had started to become…

and once we did start to do this thing….we got better and the sex became hotter, wilder and more satisfying than ever before…even though we hadn’t been having that experience somewhere in the middle of wedding and arriving at kid number two!

and that was…

• to finally get help from someone experienced, trained and farther along with me
• to open up, talk about.. and get very honest and vulnerable about all the different inner parts involved..
• to work with a trusted person, or in our case, persons and also massively open to other couples in groups… real people who had done the work… trustable…who’d actually explicitly walked that path
• and done the DAMN work to experience the hot sex, love and closeness they were obviously experiencing…
• and to deeply VALUE these containers, with our time, investment and energy. EVEN when and ESPECIALLY when we were very busy.

And we did…and it was hard but it was GOOD… beyond that.. hot and steamy and super soul satisfying and fulfilling…

and so… if you’re reading…

and resonating…

isn’t it your turn?

to have that experience.. and get going to get it.. because your relationship and sex life are FREAKIN’ precious… and you KNOW you’ve only got good awesome loving to have, right?

So who’s ready to finally get the wheels rolling?

Like seriously.. why are you waiting…?

Want to feel my 33 years and 30,000 hours of deep intensive client hours, and thousands more hours of in depth training… in your corner?….seriously…I’m NOT a pop up overnight love, sex and relationship facilitator…I’ve got healthy boundaries.. and the education and testimonials to back it up…

If you said yes…

…and you’re reading this and thinking you’re READY for all this… I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you

If you want a more connected relationship this week, then watch this!

We went LIVE yesterday, so we can serve you more on EXACTLY this one thing you must do in order to deepen your connection, so you experience more Hot Sex, Love and Closeness.

People talk about spirituality all the time, but very few take the care to integrate it into such an area we need most, our everyday marriages and romantic partnerships.

And because I want you to have all the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness you desire, learning how to integrate the spiritual path through our everyday relationship ups and downs is essential so we have more ability to feel joy and peace, especially when children are in the mix.

You want to feel that closeness, but you can get stuck without a larger framework, and perspective, and that can lead us down a path of contraction, disconnection and unhappiness.

Not the way to Hot Sex, Love and Closeness.

But to struggle, love lost, sex diminished and connection not happening as you desire.

So even if you haven’t been connected lately as easily, or wondering how to ACTUALLY work with your relationship as a spiritual path to BRING you more Hot Sex, Love and Closeness..

Get your soulful relationship dose of what’s going to actually help from our livestream on this topic.

You’re going to want tune in so you can hear a clear, instructive voice filled with experience and accessibility on this topic…and of course, to answer your personal questions on how to do it…since that’s where it matters most…

• The ONE thing you must open up to IF you want to thrive in partnership with soul.
• The two things you can do about it right now which will make you feel more connected and closer to your partner.
• The hidden secret question to ask yourself to make transformation easier that also helps release reactivity.

I KNOW just these three things alone will help you immensely and there’s so much more where that comes from.

So if you woke up today feeling in a funky relationship spot…or you’re feeling more disconnected from your partner as you’d like, or you’re ready to take the immense healing power of relationship as spiritual practice…

I’m inviting you in for a seat, grab a cuppa and for five minutes today, let this land in the valley of your disconnection and discontent, so that your heart can feel full and strong, with exactly what to DO, to receive the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness your deeply desire.

Pick one tight spot, one difficult spot.. one spot where there is a RUB between you that’s kinda gritty.

And ask…together or apart…{but recommended together}

what is one thing this need MORE of to heal, grow or become liberated..

IS it..

• love?
• presence?
• compassion?
• awareness?
• space?

Whichever one will help it MOST…for right now.. this week.

Got it?

Okay.. and then ask.. what ways do you need more presence (for example)?

find out.. for example, more eye contact without talking. or more eye contact during this discussion…. it can be anything that would bring about more presence..

Do it.

Practice…

Repeat…

Notice the connection…

What quality do you believe that couples need to develop in their challenges the most?

The ones who practice tending to their relationship daily.. are the ones who grow and get free the fastest.. and then get to the experience epic hot sex, love and closeness that they so DEEPLY desire…

So no matter where you’re at in your relationship…even if you have some shared resources or if you feel like you deeply need more…

today.. I dare you to go

• deeper
• bigger
• bolder

with the practices that help you GROW the exact kind of relationship you desire…

or if you’re new to the work of relationship…

and to find a simple practice that helps you feel more connected to

• connection
• love
• emotionally intimacy
• hot sex

So you’ll pick the one thing you want more of..for example, say it’s LOVE..

And have a conversation with your beloved…of.. what one thing is that helps you both feel MORE love..
connects you to love…
frees up love…
brings love in to loveless places…

and decide on the actions, steps, or words that it takes to do it..

and decide together how it can unfold.. (a set time, or spontaneously throughout the day.. )

and COMMIT to do it..

and see what happens…

and tell me the ONE word you want to cultivate more of in your relationship to have the hot sex, love and closeness they desire and deserve….

Sometimes my clients tell me how effed they feel that another difficulty happened in their partnership.

Sam recently got SO pissed off…”What in the actual EFF is she doing to me?”

and even though I knew initially my question might bug him…

I had to ask…

Otherwise he or you might not ask either…

Which is.. to ask how it is happening FOR you…not to you…?

…for your growth…?

…for your healing…?

…for your liberation…?

…for you to be happier…?

…for you to let go…?

…for you to look at certain parts of yourself or your relationship that need to be seen…?

…for you to develop more emotional intimacy with…?

…or to develop more love and compassion for…?

…or to be embodied about… or something else…?

please.. don’t miss the opportunity to find out!

Your challenges and difficulties are not the enemy in your relationship.

Your negative cycle IS.

And seeing it as happening to you.. VERSUS for you.. is a HUGE difference..

The one that shifts the energy from victim to powerful transformer..

And invites you into empowerment,
…bigger perspective
…more compassion
…and greater wisdom…which produces more awareness and creativity to handle the messes…

which are happening FOR you to become masters at curating and cultivating closeness and love you so deeply desire and deserve..

What’s one thing you’ve learned about yourself from being in your relationship?”

“I want more depth from him…

She needs to take things less personally, everything makes her so emotionally overwhelmed…

Sometimes I wonder why we have to go through this…

I wish we could have more perspective or context that made sense for what we’re going through…can it really be only this that’s going on?

What else is contributing to the disconnection.. I feel like we’re missing something.. are we? Is it me… is it you? Is it us?

I don’t understand how we’re supposed to hold everything that’s required of us… parenting, couplehood, paying the bills, successful careers, family, resolving our stuff, and.. and.. and…”

These were the words that tumbled out of the mouths of my clients Kevin and Cara…through the first meeting I had with them.

Perhaps you resonate.. or know someone who has a similar version of this going on…

They didn’t know what questions they needed to ask…

They were struggling to make sense of their journey, find meaning, and greater love, wisdom, perspective and space, EXACTLY what they needed to bring them closer, more connected and create more intimacy.. emotionally and sexually.

The longing for depth, profound connection, epic love and hot sex evokes all this inquiry…and they weren’t willing to settle for a surface level.. or one-dimensional answer..

Because these things aren’t answerable that way…

And sometimes the thing that’s going to shift the needle…

And be the linchpin thing that makes things ALL make sense…

And fall into place, even in the hardest and most charged up of places…

And feel like the missing piece that helps glue the parts of the relationship together that may not feel easy to connect the dots in..

Is the acceptance of the work of relationship AS spiritual path…

A path that holds you…

That provides you both and your challenges.. greater meaning, compassion, wisdom…and release…

And values the greater growth and evolutionary lessons of the relationship.. always…

And the healing it requires you do…and you do it..

And the self-liberating.. and together liberating union of overcoming any struggles and pains that you can do together…if you choose, which you CAN…

And seeing each other as sacred mirrors.. here to show each other parts..and learning to do it well..

And to be each other’s best ally.. on a deep soul level…

And these were just some of the things Kevin and Cara learned to do in our time together…because they couldn’t NOT…

And they developed their own way, their own path, informed by the wisdom and teachings they felt aligned with..

And they kept tweaking it..

growing it..

building it..

And they got to utilize what they’d built.. for THEM!

And it was glorious to watch as they became very generous of spirit with each other…and THAT really helped too..

And this path they created, that helped them be closer, more loving and more intimate, was far bigger than the one they had been walking before that led them to me to begin with.

And they triumphed.. with their kids, their work.. and in their own waking up as well.

…all with great heart and soul they KNEW was in each of them…and their union…

Which was pretty epic and satisfying to witness and an honor to be able to facilitate…

How many people do we all know that would benefit from this?

Would you?

Cara and Kevin had to hold the question of what contributed to the disconnection…and when they opened to the relationship as a spiritual path, then closeness and intimacy flourished….

What’s ONE area you’d like to flourish?

If you’ve read this far.. you probably are.. and that’s a good sign and I’m inviting you to LAND in the sacred container I hold, professionally and personally to really get you.. whether it’s you or your partner.. or you both.. you will get answers, and know EXACTLY what to do.

And.. I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

What’s ONE way, you can imagine a spiritual path will help your partnership?

I hear every day that couples want relationship life to be EASIER.
Easier with the kids.
Easier with connection.
Easier with sex, love and closeness.

And I’d be lying if I let you believe it has all been a bed of roses for me, as some people think…it has NOT.

It has been a WHOLE journey,
a LIBERATION journey,
a connecting, loving, definitely amazing, …Aaaand potent, transformative, freakin’ journey.

There are so many things that go into creating hot sex, love and connected relationship. People think it’s surface basic stuff and that’s not realistic.

It seriously takes inner resources that few of us arrive at adulthood having what’s truly needed, even though you feel like you should just automatically arrive at adulthood with them.

I know, because I hear every day through some sort of challenged perspective from my clients,

“…we need a bigger view…,
…how do I not take things as personally?…
…what do we do when we’re stuck that actually makes sense?
…that actually works?…”

The EXACT same things I once deeply struggled with.

and because I didn’t have these things figured out…

It HURT, a lot!

Disconnection, frustration, lack of closeness…not the ideal sex I desired…

Questioning myself.
Us questioning each other.
Doubting.
Enactments.

Probably in one shade or another, what you’re experiencing as well.

Nobody likes to talk about it, but it’s an EPIDEMIC.

And I believe we’ve got TO put ourselves out of our own misery so we CAN experience The Hot Sex, Love and Closeness we desire and deserve.

Even though we can stay in the same disconnection patterns that cause unhappiness and love lost, and sometimes for a painfully long, disconnected time, even only IF in certain places or pockets between you.. the rub.. RUBS!

And I know how tempting that can be to feel like you’re never going to get out of it…

Because that’s EXACTLY how we BOTH felt…

And because I drank from that well.. it was family transmitted…so for a long time I thought it was normal. Usual and familiar…{{as in root word of FAMILY 😉 }}

And it took a long time to get to the root of what created the problem.

Let alone the inner resources to satisfy my hunger on how to really have the love, sex and closeness I desired.

And in ending the struggle,

I embraced the partnership and the journey of it, AS SPIRITUAL PATH,

Which deepened EVERYTHING.

Because you need a bigger perspective, especially when it comes to partnership..

Because relationship is the place where your mind can make things small,
…and your conditioning can sometimes make you contract around love,
…and those of you that are parents will resonate; you’re confronted with more input than you can sometimes feasibly handle.

And it wasn’t enough to become more aware of our patterns, our feelings, our wounds and injuries along with the creativity and heart to heal it.

We had to embrace our challenges and desires for growth through a wider lense,
…a more compassionate lens
…a more impersonal lens
…an undeniably more wise and loving lens.

And this became the beginning of our spiritual path as relationship,

And it’s only continued to grow,

And deepen…

And heal…

And repair..

And bring certain things to an end {that needed to…}

And birth to other things.. that we both deeply desired…

And to grow love, real promise-land, sustainable, true love.. NOT the love of romantic fantasy and projection kinda love.

And I tell you, it wasn’t easy.

I didn’t know if we were gonna make it at times,

But holding our relationship through the lens of a spiritual path was EXACTLY helpful, the right medicine…

and we did it by ultimately staying open, asking the right questions, listening humbly for answers, even if it was after difficult moments, which…let’s face it.. are going to happen.

And I know it’s not easy for you either.. at least not in this place..

But that you want SOMETHING… that thing that gives you more space, a deep exhale of AH, and the knowing you are each individually and your journey together is HELD with exactly the support it needs.

That is what relationship as a spiritual path can DO for you..

When you have a spiritual path, you feel held in practices that grow love, perspectives that increase presence and meditation that grow awareness. These are things you can DO, right now and they are ALL so useful for growing Hot Sex, Love and Closeness…. it’s like you have a compass to guide you and a HUGE net to catch you when you get stuck.. and when you have that.. you feel closer, more connected.. you overcome stuff easier.. you get back to loving easier…. and this is why getting support is such an IMPORTANT step because it helps you get connected to this (even if it’s feeling unclear how you’d get there right now).

And you can learn to create it for yourself.

And..I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

What’s ONE thing you want to see different in your relationship this week?

Yesterday was the LIVE STREAM you don’t wanna miss.

With the kids between you this week, and frankly getting on your last good nerve, and taking up SO much space..you’ve lost your support with each other.. and you need that to get your connection happening, so you can have all the intimacy you desire and deserve…

And.. you’re SO not alone.. you see…. Every day I hear a complaint from a couple or one person in a couple.

About overwhelm and kids and connection…”they’re driving me cuckoo..and not only that, we’re (the couple) not connecting either as much as we want to.

He’s seriously been annoying me….She’s talking my ear off and it’s exasperating…”

This happens.. every day.. and it’s much more prevalent than you think…

But the problem is people stay quiet about it… or have shame about it, like we’re somehow supposed to never have challenges like this…

It’s ridiculous the expectation…

But we ALL do.. at some point or another…

And there is ONE thing that I KNOW without a DOUBT can help you…get through the struggle and have things be easier.

It’s what I do ongoingly every day.

And it helps unfold the way to Hot Sex, Love and Closeness.

You don’t need to hang out in struggle, love lost, sex diminished and connection not happening as you desire.

So even if for you it’s been a stretch with the life of being a parent, a partner, and full on career lately and you’re wondering how to ACTUALLY work with your relationship with all the kids and parenting stresses to BRING you more Hot Sex, Love and Closeness..

Check out our Live Stream that went down.

You’re going to want to check this out… so you can cut through the emotional noise and receive this ONE THING…to help things go smoother, easier and in more FLOW…and of course, to answer your personal questions on how to do it…since that’s where it matters most…

• The ONE thing you must open up to even if your kids are driving you nuts and you haven’t been feeling as connected to your partner this week.
• The two things you can do about it right now which will make you feel more connected and closer to your partner.
• The Sacred Mirror question to ask yourself that makes things flow easier with the kids and makes reactivity decrease.

I KNOW just these three things alone will help you immensely shift the needle and help connection truly grow.

So if you entered this week with your own special version of how the kids drive you nuts…and you’re not feeling as connected from your partner as you’d like, or you’re ready to open to the immense healing and mirroring power children bring your way… you’re in for a special treat.

I hope you love it.