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Do You Want The Same Disconnection Or Do You Want To Try This Instead?

We have been covering the subject of how in your family life to deal with repair, attunement, emotional overwhelm and creating specialness rituals in your family unit.

And it’s not easy because I know you’re busy so I’m going to get straight to the point.

The word ‘re’, literally means to do again and the words repair, and regulation, and revisit are all about redoing the things that have been difficult or overwhelming or challenging.

Let’s face it, those things are going to happen because we’re so deeply human.

But instead of resisting them, the little nudge I want to give you today is to simply remind yourself that you need to just simply make it ok to begin again.

Begin again.

Try saying it to yourself right now in the face of things that are challenging.

Begin again.

When things feel overwhelming or you didn’t do the repair correctly. or when you hurt someone or someone hurt you, we all know it was unintentional and we’re human so we need to forgive ourselves, you need to forgive yourself and let it be simply ok to plainly…

Begin again.

Next time you’re in a conflict, next time there’s a difficulty, next time there’s a challenge, next time you feel hurt or that things didn’t go well in the conversation, simply come back to, begin again.

Begin again.

Begin again.

What’s one situation this week that you can acknowledge to yourself, that it would that would be great to begin again, Or to have a fresh start?

I’m going to redo something I said to my husband yesterday that didn’t quite come out the way that I wanted, so I’m leading the way.

Join me?

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When Relationship And Family Overwhelm, You’ll Be Ahead Of The Game With These Non-Negotiables (Don’t Miss This).

That was really fun on our live stream yesterday.

I love it when people give themselves the gift of being able to take five minutes and get the things that are going to catapult them into love, sex, and closeness, even while being parents.

Why?

Because so often, what I hear from my clients and what I’ve experienced as a partner and as a parent is this overwhelming sense that somehow we’re just supposed to know how to do repair and to deal with things that are overwhelming.

We can feel so stuck, and hopeless and you can wonder how the heck you’re ever going to have hot sex, love and closeness relationship that works with your family and that’s a good role model for your children.

These were things I often wondered about and had to honestly deeply practice becoming better at if I wanted to be a parent who had their children feel secure.

I had to really dig deep in my own soul and really open up to massive support, practices and inner healing in order to now be at the place that I am today which includes much ease with repair and dealing with overwhelm that parents can experience and often do, and also how to deeply attune to yourself so that you can also be very connected to your children.

I also had to learn how to create sacred rituals with my family that resulted in us all feeling much closer and more connected and continuously gave support for healing which was needed when we made mistakes because we are human after all.

So if you’re reading this and wondering how the heck you’re going to do the job of parenting with these things intact, I’ve got just the thing for you.

Check it out.

Where we are going to dive into:
– What you need to do to have more healing and harmony in your family so that there’s greater ease of connection and closeness.
– The number one thing you must do when there’s overwhelming so you can feel safe and relaxed again.
– My go-to family ritual that helps create closeness and healing and intimacy for everyone involved and that emotional intimacy.
– When you learn how to do THIS, your connection with each other, with your kids AND your partner, will become more loving and more easeful.

I KNOW in my bones it works because I’ve practiced it literally for the last 30 years and in every relationship, I have been in.

I have walked countless couples and individuals through these very challenges so that they can be close with each other, and have a secure family unit which only does wondrous good things to create hot sex, love, and closeness in your marriage.

Not only that it will help provide the perfect role model for your children as well to take permanently with them in their journey throughout life.

Who would want to resist that?

Feel free to message me if you’ve got any questions.

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Want To Find Out How Parenting In THIS Way Radically Improves Hot Sex, Love And Closeness?

There’s such a palpable sweetness that happens when you’re sitting in the room with clients or working with them and the issue of repair, attunement and regulation comes up.

You know, the number one job of parents is to help their children feel emotionally regulated which is very difficult when we haven’t learned to do it for ourselves.

Which is another way of saying emotionally not overwhelmed nor underwhelmed.

And sadly, we’re still learning how to do this so it’s very often that grown adults who mean well, smart and intelligent grow up and not knowing how to do these things really well in their own partnerships.

This results in such a deep complaint of disconnection, hurt, resentment and bitterness, and one of the constant things I hear with my couples who are parents, which are many, is that they are overwhelmed and no time for special anything.

Many of you who own businesses, startups, online practices can feel deeply overwhelmed and wonder where there’s time for anything personal or how you’re going to figure out this work life family balance.

This was the complaint of my clients Sara and Sal who came into the session space together but it was like they were two distant people who barely knew each other.

Sara looked hard, long lines of what looked like anguish to me on her face, a tight jaw, and pursed lips were her consistent presentation.

Sal seemed a bit numb, and his eyes looked cloudy and when I tuned into the frequency in the room it felt hard and bitter and so this told me that there was probably repairs that needed to have happen, not to mention valuable resources that needed to be brought in so they could learn how to manage overwhelming experiences and create special time for them and their family.

Sara started, “Sal, when I’m feeling overwhelmed you just seem to avoid me. There’s no healing that happens after we seem to talk about things and I feel unseen and that we’ve lost the sense of specialness between the two of us.”

Sal’s stiffened. “Sara, I don’t know what else to do, no matter how much I try to support you in things feeling connected and healed between us, I feel like I fail you, and I’m not motivated to create special times between us because you’re unhappy and I don’t want to disappoint you again.”

So often, I hear this complaint in a few different versions.

And I knew that the work we needed to do was to help them learn how to:

– Repair, so that whatever lurking hurts, sadnesses, disappointments, and left over injuries and wounds could actually get the proper attention they needed. I helped them do this by bringing in deep forgiveness that helps people word actually how to ask for forgiveness, and how to offer it in a way that is not blaming or critical or diminishes the person for needing the forgiveness to begin with.
– Regulate difficult states of overwhelm. This meant having resources in their tool box to help hold literally difficult or overwhelming states. For example, this meant being able to have understanding, and presence in their bodies that could serve the function of being containers to actually hold the difficult overwhelming experiences. From my understanding of deep developmental work, I also know that reparenting our inner mother and father who may not have contributed to our own ability to manage overwhelming experiences, is deeply critical and I watched how Sarah and Sal let this work in and actually began to find a lot of relief because they now have some creative tools on how to address their wounds and how to address it with each other.
– Not only that but they also learned attunement, the ability to really tune into where the other person is and learn to put language to it. This requires learning the language of feelings, and also the language of sensations. From my deep study of trauma work and sensorimotor psychotherapy, we delved into the world of being present to sensation, and how to work with that in a way that helps the body learn to become resourced.
– Ritual, we dived deep into how to create sacred special practices to honor what was really important to them and or their family, and we created massive family ritual experiences that were honoring, and respectful to each person in the family. With all these new tools in their toolbox, Sarah and Sal healed a huge piece of disconnection in their relationship. They repaired, they handled their overwhelm, they learned how to deeply attuned to themselves and each other, and how to create sacred special rituals of meaning for them and their family members.

I know that these two aren’t the only ones who deal with some version of this, and if you’re reading this I want you to know I really truly get you, and I know how much you struggle with not having these things, I know that hurts, the overwhelm, the lack of anything special feeling going on, and the feeling of not being seen.

They’re really painful and you don’t have to live that way, not anymore.

Which is what ended up happening with my clients. Three months later they decided to renew their decision to continue working with me, because their family life had shifted, they were feeling so much more connected, and repairs and overwhelm were flowing the way they needed to.

I want this for you!

So what I’m wondering is, what is ONE thing you can do to commit to bringing in repair in your relationship in any way that’s needed?

Feel free to send me a private message, I know this is deeply personal information for pretty much everybody out there, and I want you to feel safe and know that I have your confidential back if that is what is needed in order for you to be safe to open up.

I want you to have all the repair and management resources that you need, in addition to all the being seen and seeing each other resources that you also need so people feel gotten.

All this results in the feeling of closeness and connection and healing that I am living now because I went through what you might be going through and I know how to get to the other side by following exactly these steps.

Now it’s your turn to feel this, and try it on and go really deep with it so you can have it too.

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When You Do These THREE Things, The Healing In Your Relationship And Family Will Skyrocket.

I want to really share with you, that I wasn’t the best at having parenting be easy for me.

While I was born with a lot of ability to be a good mother, learning how to do the partnership dance with my husband, and sorting out the necessary inner resources that were required to have a really good relationship and a really good family life like I have now were not something that I was just born with.

I had to learn through my own experience.

With some of you, I’ve shared that I didn’t know how to do repair or deal with overwhelming feelings.

And one of the things that I understand and excel at now so deeply is that the primary job of a parent is to help their children feel regulated.

What I mean by regulated is to help them process experiences so that things are neither overwhelming nor underwhelming, but to keep them at a healthy level of engagement.

Well, given the dysfunctional family that I was born and, there were lots of regulation issues and also my husband had regulation issues as well, when it came to dealing with emotion.

I know there are thousands more like me because I have been hearing about it for over 25 years!

And so for us, for a long time we had to really endeavor to develop the inner resources so that we wouldn’t feel overwhelmed with any particular emotions.

There were times when I would look at him and say, “This is just too big and overwhelming, I don’t know what to do.”

And then he would say, I’m feeling that way too, I want to be bigger than this, but I just don’t know how to support you, I can barely even support myself.”

I know that I’m not alone when I speak of these things, and maybe you’ve tried your own ways to deal with overwhelm as well, and wondered how to do the management of your emotions really well.

It’s something I see every week in my practice.

One of the things I know from my work is learning how to deal with emotional overwhelm, by metabolizing the sensations in the body through movement, presence and release.

I knew I needed to do this through all my earliest formative experiences.

So both my husband and I had to go back to the drawing board of our earliest experiences and literally work our way through them by addressing all the difficult emotions that needed containment, and addressing them and giving them actually what they needed.

This meant we had to dig deep into our own ability to birth the inner mother and father that were deeply needed in order to support each one of us individually, and then we could come together as a family.

We had the support of many mentors, deep mature adult friendships with other couples, lots of trauma resources, and lots of support on how to literally hold presence through our hearts and our minds and our bodies, the sensations and thoughts and feelings that accompany overwhelm.

Not only did we do that, but we also learned to deeply repair and to take full responsibility for our own experience while also learning to be empathic and to care for each other’s experience as well.

I remember a time as we were working through this, that it would be so sweet when we could really deepen into the level of maturity that was needed in order to shepherd our relationship in a good way.

And I’m so glad that we did this, because now we have a relationship where we can attune to each other and this results along with healthy management of our feelings and sincere repair and throw in a sprinkle of good family rituals to honor the important things, that the amount of closeness and connection and intimacy skyrocketed.

We healed,
We forgave each other,
We learned how to master emotional regulation,
We learned how to do repair in a really sincere way,
and we learned how to create sacred and meaningful family rituals,
like saging the house together,
or pulling tarot cards together and having a family discussion about what was most helpful.

My job is to help each couple create their own family rituals that fit them and that it’s exactly what I do with my clients that help them experience closeness, family unity and collective healing and honoring amongst them. All of this leads to greater intimacy, ease, and energy freed up to create the hot sex, love and closeness relationship they desire.

Of course, the kids, they love this, even my sweet son would say when he was three, Mama can I ‘stage’ {of course he was talking about sage…} the house? (I didn’t have the heart to correct him and tell him that the t was an extra letter), because his sweetness and sincerity were so special.

I want you to have all these healing benefits as well, and I know that you can, when you do some of the things that I am suggesting above.

I want you to feel close and connected and have the healing resources that you need because you do need them, and you cannot survive and thrive in love where both people come together with their conditioning without it.

I hope you’ll drink this in and take in the good nourishment that’s here.

What’s the first step that you can take this week to start getting going on this for yourself?

For me, I’m going to take an inventory of any places where I still feel there is a need for this, and going to make a list and plan a time with my hubby to connect with him and I know he’ll listen to me even if it’s uncomfortable or even if it’s difficult because we’ve done that work. Wouldn’t it feel great to know the same was possible for you?

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Name With Your Beloved Where In Your Body You Most Feel Disconnected When Conflict Hits, And Then Own What You Need To Do Shift It For Yourself.

Let’s not pretend, we’re all going to get into conflict with our beloved.

It might not happen very often or maybe it happens more than you wish.

And so the next time it happens, in order to create the closeness, connection and intimacy that you desire, we’re going to start with yourself.

When you feel disconnected I’m pretty sure that there’s a place in your body that feels disconnected.

Do you know where it is?

Stop and ask yourself, when I feel disconnection, where is the location in my body where I feel it, another way of asking this is, when I feel disconnected how does my body tell me I feel disconnected?

Let your body answer.

Let yourself identify the location in your body, and the sensations that go along with the disconnection location in your body. Have you got that?

Like for me, “I first feel it in my body in my chest. It’s like an aching in my heart, and the first sign I’m feeling disconnection is usually that.

Good.

So now you have the sensation, and you have the awareness of it, and your attention is on it, and you are focused on it, now the work is to bring a presence right into the sensation of it.

Watch what happens.
What happens to the sensation of disconnection in your body? What are you noticing?
What shifts?

In pretty much 100 percent of circumstances when I do this with clients, things shift, difficulties dissolve, and connection with one’s own presence and intimate touching of one’s own inner parts is present. That is the key. That is what you need to do.

And then once you have this valuable information, turn to your beloved, and share it with them. Watch what happens when you share it. You are taking responsibility for your inner parts, and deciding to share it in a really good way, filled with awareness, attention, focus and presence.

Here’s a script you can use for ease.

“When we’re feeling disconnected, it’s like this for me. My LOCATION IN BODY, has the sensation of NAME OF SENSATION. I want you to know me here like this.. what it’s like for me. And I’m committed to being present with it, with you.. and noticing it shift as I and we are present with it.”

Practice.
Repeat.

So tell me, What’s one way you’re going to commit to doing this there this week and seeing what you discover? Let me know in the comments below.

I’m going to schedule myself a half an hour of uninterrupted time, no TV, no screens, no children and really tune in to where that is for me this week. And then I’m going to write about it and share it with my beloved so I can be more connected with myself, with him.

Now it’s your turn.

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Identify The Sensations That Help You Feel Truly Connected To Your Beloved And Watch THIS Happen.

I’ve been saying all week, the number one complaint I hear from couples is one of disconnection. Some of the things I hear are;

I’m just not feeling connected as I want to be,

What’s the problem, is it mine or his?

What can I do to feel more connected?

Maybe I shouldn’t be in this relationship or, I should be in another one where I can get my connection needs met there…

None of these are the answers to what you are seeking. The key and challenge here is to make a practice out of restoring connection in the moment first with yourself.

Intimacy with yourself is absolutely key and I know we can all be challenged with it so I’m volunteering to show you with myself that when I struggle with connection with myself or my partner I do this;

I imagine a time or recall a time and/or ask my beloved to remind me of a time when we were truly connected, and we describe it, we describe where we were, what it looked like, what it felt like, and how it was for us.

Once you are feeling the connection, both of you, identify the sensations; do you feel tingling in your arms, where is that in your body, is it prickly, is it warm, is a cold?

And pretty soon, what happens is that we start to feel connected, we’re literally recreating the connection energy between us just by conjuring it up from previous times where it was authentic and true.

I want you to practice this and see what can happen for you.

And then once you’ve identified the sensations simply be present to them.
Breathe them in, breathe them out, and repeat.

I’d love to hear what happens for you. And I’d love to hear ONE step this week that you’re going to take so that you can make this practice happen. Remember, practice does not make perfection, as we’ve been taught, it makes for connection and we’ve been fed a mass of lie that we should know how to do sex and intimacy and connection super easy, but it’s B.S.

I can’t wait to hear what happens for you.

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Did You Claim These Two THINGS You Can Do Right Now To Experience The Closeness And Connection Missing From Your Partnership.

You say you truly desire and need the delicious intimacy and closeness that is so yummy you wish someone would package it up in a little love bottle and you could have it just like that..

I’ve got the next best thing.. not bottled.. but actually out of the bottle, no more mystery.. straightforward for you to have now..

I truly wish someone had shared with me these down to earth real things that were needed to make a relationship as healthily close as it could be.

To show me how to create closeness, intimacy and all the connection that I desired and deeply needed.

I know I’m not alone, because disconnection is the #1 complaint of couples.

And we’ve not been taught how to bridge the intimacy gaps succinctly and easily so we can reconnect and have the hot sex, love and closeness that pretty much every client who has ever walked into my office tells me that they desire.

I felt so lost at times, stuck, defeated, and deeply confused on how to create this for myself.

The journey I went on; the trauma release work, the mindset work, the emotional healing work the spiritual development work, the coaching all my inner parts into wholeness work and the interpersonal integration of all these into my partnership … it’s honestly been a deep personal study the last 15 years.

But now, as I look out with my hubby, feeling close and securely connected into my beautiful garden and feel grateful for the harvest of this year; plums, cherries, peaches, two kinds of figs, lemons, oranges, honeycrisp apples and muscat grapes..I know our partnership and the resulting garden that’s blossomed is a deep inside-out job.

And because I’m on a mission to get what I KNOW works into the hands of millions of couples, just like you, who want and crave it too, I’m going to break it down for you and share exactly what I did to create the precious and soul-satisfying connection I now experience on our Livestream.

– The #1 Thing To DO to create the closeness and intimacy you desire right now.
– The NECESSARY mindset you need to have to create the closeness and intimacy you crave, and what to do to have it.
– The 3 non-negotiables you have to do now to get started creating the love and closeness you desire straight away.

It’s going to clear, fun, and easy to follow.. and the value for you relationship is going to be immense, you don’t want to miss this.

Can’t wait to see you there, so I can get this in your hands, and you can seriously evolve into more Hot Sex, Love and Closeness straight away.

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Find Out The BEST Thing That Makes Your Beloved Feel Close To You And Do It.

If you want to feel close to your beloved, you have to work at taking the steps that make the connection happen.

So the next time, you want to feel close and connected, and it’s been not as much of a connecting time for you, or you both, I want you to try this instead.

Just simply stop, and ask them, what is the number one thing that makes them feel close to you?

Go ahead, and deeply listen to their response.
Really take in what they’re saying.
Really listen to them, and take that right into your heart, feel it in your heart.

And then, quite simply, work towards doing it.

This doesn’t mean doing it perfectly.

This means making the intention to hold what is sacred and helps connection happen in your partnership and be devoted and dedicated to doing it.

That’s it.

It doesn’t need to be complicated, it just needs to happen and it needs to keep happening as a practice until the connection is built, and when you do this you’ll find that you will increase your ability and bandwidth to give and receive hot sex, love, and closeness.

Just in the way you want it.
Just in the way they want it.
So you can enjoy it, and create from it, and have fun from it, and heal from it.

My client last week did this, and then told her hubby, “I love it when you give me that undefended look of love.. that way that you’re just totally WITH me, no background other thoughts going on. I can really feel you. It’s the most amazing thing.”

This is what you need to do, your own version of course.

What’s one thing this week or what’s one step you’re willing to take right now to start this process? I’m going to ask my husband this question again, even though we’ve asked it before, because it’s always good to bring it up, and when you speak about these things, it creates a different field between the two of you, one that is filled with connection, goodwill, intention, and knowing each other more and more intimately.

Look forward to hearing your responses.

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Who Else Wants Closeness And Intimacy Like My Clients Tina And Tom, Even If You’re Doubtful You’ll Have It.

Sometimes clients walk in and straight away I can feel the energy that is preventing them from having the closeness and intimacy that they desire and need.

When I look deep into their eyes, I can see the possibility of what they most desire.. and then the road to healing it becomes possible.

Like Tina and Tim, who came in and a wave of palpable sadness dominated their frequency. It was undeniable.

I leaned in as Tina spoke in a quite despairing voice…soft.. as if to call me quietly and carefully to hear her. I took notes as these signals are important.

She crossed her leg.. and gently folded her arms in front of her. Despair oozed out of her pores.

And Tom held his head.. looking defeated.. ashamed.

“I feel like we don’t know who we are anymore…I wish he wasn’t so involved in work and on his phone all the time….It’s not right..”, she almost whispered.

What had made her so full of despair and resignation?

This.. this disconnection complaint is the primary one..of all couples..

But what I wanted to know was…
– when did they last have a date night that was amazing?
– how often do you each get out for time away (overnight) individually and as a couple?
– how often are you working out? how do you get good endorphins?
– how do you remind yourself of your love for each other? what symbolized your connection to each other? an object? a sweet picture of your togetherness?
– what helps you return to connection when it’s gone? and if you do, how often do you use it when you need it?
– what is the best part of your love? How can you/do you expand that?
– who do you admire that you can draw on their energy who is doing a version of closeness and intimacy that you desire?

One by one, we went through them. And the cause for their sadness and connection became very clear. There were virtually no structures in place for any of these things.

And because of that, they were vulnerable to being pulled into a negative cycle of disconnection because they didn’t have the positive resources, the inside infrastructure to create the connection they desired instead.

This was the connection foundation work we began with. We addressed all of these questions. They felt vulnerable. They owned what they needed to feel emotionally safe with each other. I would not let them go into the old, negative cycle. In fact, I insisted they team up against the negative cycle together, and make that negative cycle the enemy instead.

I loved seeing Tina smile when I gave her this resource to use to protect their connection.

All this restored HUGE connection.

They weren’t mismatched as they feared.

They just didn’t know how… and they had made the mistake of beating themselves up for it.

They were supported in making some very clear decisions about how they wanted their relationship to be.. how they wanted to handle disconnection points. how they wanted to be calibrated back to closeness and intimacy.

The power of choice and decision.
The power of making the negative cycle the enemy.
The power of rituals to remember your love and connection when you are caught in a trance of disconnection…

The ability to utilize the resources they already had and take in and use new ones, exactly where they needed them.

They decided together.. the two of them. and they wanted the same things..so that made it easier for them to grow back into connection together.. and they did. When they came they didn’t THINK they want the same things (or maybe weren’t even right for each other) but it turns out, they did.

And now it’s your turn to decide together how you want to handle disconnection snafus and challenges. And if you don’t know how to navigate that on your own, that’s what I’m an absolute expert at – reach out for support.

What’s ONE thing you will do to grow connection with each other this week? I’m going to snuggle up to my man and remind him of how much I love kissing that sweet spot on his face.. the one that makes him feel sweet connectedness and closeness and that all is well..

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You Won’t Believe It But THIS One Thing Made ALL The Difference In Getting Me Close To My Hubby And Him Close To Me.

There were days in my healing journey to experience more closeness and intimacy in my marriage that felt so dark.

After such a profound honeymoon period, of long extended lovemaking, multiple times per day, mega love, and closeness and connectedness, how could the period after have been filled with so much challenge and disconnection?

Not many people tell you that after the romantic love period is over, there is a stage where you reconcile what you projected onto your partner, with who they actually are.

It’s also called the power struggle stage.. and it’s where most people break up.

The potent combination of ‘falling in love’ hormones.. are a powerful cocktail that are nothing like the brain has ever seen. The brain can only sustain that for 18 months. It’s even stronger than heroin. That’s why people feel so horrible sometimes, at the power struggle stage. The drugs are wearing off.. and reality is hitting.

Who the heck (or hell) are you anyway?
And who really, are you??
The things we can think or say.

In fact, there are hardly any good movies that show couples getting through this stage…so we decided to make our own.. with the happy, close, connected ending and journey that we are living now…

I’ll be honest, this road to develop connection can be filled with great fears and doubt about what to do to navigate the real path forward to true love and connection and closeness that’s real and sustainable.

And my sweet hubby and I were determined to not become a casualty of our ancestral trauma and divorce lineages. I mean the word dissolution that people click on the divorce papers.. is really when you break it down really means disconnected from a solution. Our disconnected places were a wake up call, so we got serious and focused, and you will need to as well, if you’re not giving up on the closeness and intimacy that you desire.

We knew that the connection and closeness we had was sacred, precious and worth it’s weight in gold.

But what we didn’t know was how to maintain it when there were challenges. And let’s face it, there’s going to be challenges and spots where connection will fizzle.

And then you’ll wonder… or question.. what do you do? Like us.

My hubby would ask me.. “How do we stay close.. what do we do…what do we have to prioritize…I want to be close to you but then shadows take over…”

And with two kids now part of the scene, and two businesses to manage we felt so full, overwhelmed and stuck with how to create the kind of partnership connection that makes life worth living.

We decided to go for it.. And that looked like

– Date nights, scheduled regularly..
– Taking time away for ourselves both individually and as a couple
– Workouts, to really respect our bodies.. and the good endorphins and creativity that comes from caring from them
– Reminders of our love. I love hearts of all kinds.. he reminds me of the love we have by sharing them with them. He loves me kissing him in a part of his cheek just the way he likes it.. I remember that and give him that.
– Come back to the felt sense, in your bodies of the best parts of your connection, closeness, intimacy and love. When you re-member this.. often, connection happens.
– Identifying this… what helps you return to love and closeness when it’s gone? For us, it’s a certain look, a smile.. breathing practices, sustained eye contact for at least 21 seconds.. all those help.. but you can find yours?
– What’s the best part of your love and expanding that?
– Who supports you, holds your best vision for your relationship? and champions you until you get there?
– What mentors do you have?
– Who do you admire that you can draw on their energy who is doing a version of closeness and intimacy that you desire?

We did ALL these things…

And we’re still doing them…

They are a practice, not a perfection.

And I’ll share with you…the result…

We are close and getting closer all the time..

We have intimacy that’s emotionally secure..

We resolve any blips on our screen really quickly..

And we get to enjoy the love and sweetness and then extend that into our lives, our creative projects, our work, our kids and community..

Now that is precious..

And you get to have it too.

And here’s the thing. I already know you have a million things to do..

This is NOT about quantity of time.

This is about energy, focused, quality, intentional…NOW

And that’s where a mentor comes in…who has curated the way forward for you, based on thousands of hours of experience, practice, application and relentless devotion, and who will support you in making the space for this…to bring into you the embodiment, that little acts of these, like the small kisses on the cheek.. they lead to huge shifts.. the delicious closeness and intimacy..there’s a hum of delight that runs through your whole being…it’s yummy and shivery all at the same time…

I’m looking forward to celebrating that energy on my upcoming Anniversary!

What’s ONE fun intimacy thing you can recommend we do to celebrate our anniversary?