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What desires do you have for your relationship?

You know, the juicy ones, the ones that light your soul on fire?

The deepest ones.. the most vulnerable ones..

The ones that leave you feeling holy OMG.. I shared that?

Those ones that especially pertain to

Hot Sex,

Love,

Closeness

Those ones are the ones I dare you to share with your partner.

This week.

Today.

Don’t wait.

Just do it…

Share it any way you can.

Text, email, in person (how bout that?)

Whispering in each other’s ear at night..

Slowly..presently..

“From my soul.. I desire to…. !@#$%…”

The ones who do so.. usually end up having it happen.

Don’t wait another minute.

I just practiced this am.. with my hubby.. as we held each other in bed.

Trust me. 🙂

It works Really well.

What ONE thing are you going to do to make this a priority?

What’s that? You have other things you’re going to do instead?

Don’t.

Just don’t.

Soul lit love in the center is everything.

You get to have it.

All the way. You deserve it.

And if this is touching you in that place where it’s feeling really hard, or you can’t seem to open up enough to do it, reach out to me, because I have been there, and I know the edginess involved and I want you to get it.

Of all the things I LOVE the most about my partnership with my hubby is the level of soul-infused love and wisdom we give to each other and our relationship…right in the sticky spots.

We didn’t always know how to do it.. but we knew we had to learn, otherwise when trouble hits, as you know it will, we could have disconnected and drifted apart, like so many couples do.

Don’t do that.. instead, practice this instead.

Sit in front of each other.

Drop into your hearts.

Actually FEEL the sensation of your heartbeat.. as you look at each other.

Maintain eye contact as you do it.

Breathe in love from the love you already have.

Exhale love to the places that need it.

You don’t even need to know or share where those are.

Just trust your intuition.

And your heart.

Feel how that is together.

This is creating a spiritual container.

One that holds you.

And helps you pull through.

If you practice it.

Which you must.

Before you find yourself in another tender spot that feels groundless and unsupported.

This is literally what’s helped me thrive in relationship with soul.

You get to have it too, if you’re ready to claim it.

What’s the ONE thing you’re going to do to prioritize this practice today? For me, I love putting things in my calendar, that way I’m absolutely positive it’s going to happen.

What do you do when you need more support? When your relationship is falling apart at the seams and you’re not sure what’s next? You LEAN IN for more support, in all the layers, in all the ways you need to, so that you can get shored up, and back on track. And where do you go before you’re on the verge of breaking up, calling it quits, or faced with another lonely night? You watch THIS.

From the emotional to the mental, to physical to spiritual, life and most of our upbringing’s do a pretty poor job on educating us on how to develop and cultivate the things that are needed so that your relationship can truly blossom and be everything you KNOW it’s meant to (think Hot Sex, Luscious Loving and Intimate Closeness even IF you have kids). Which is why, if there’s ONE thing you can do, the underlies all the other things, it’s THIS, and I shared this in our Live Stream this week so that you can know what needs to be done, how to do it, and find out the non negotiable key that helped my relationship soar from struggle and stress to sublimely soulful. You don’t have to have anything figured out, just check it out ..

When the very floorboards of your relationship are coming apart…

And you feel pushed against a wall…

And you need deeper support..

A larger container to hold you through it…

What are you going to do?

There’s nothing left except THIS.

Commit to the spiritual path.

Find out what brings you alive spiritually!

Is it love, awareness or presence?

Is it hot sex, or a connection with the divine?

Whatever it is, I’m telling you…. FIND out what IT is!

For me, it’s space to relax. To find my breath, which takes me to my essence.
And from that essence place, everything comes so much easier. All the answers you’ve been wanting.

For some of my clients, it’s finding time to literally sit next to each other and look into each other’s eyes and just open the question.

Get going.

No time to lose.

Life is happening…

And time is going by.

If the disconnection and struggle aren’t enough to nudge you out of inaction, then consider this your mirror today.

What’s the ONE thing you’re going to do today to start getting clear on what’s going to bring you alive spiritually?

I’m thrilled to re-clarify the spiritual practices I do with my husband. He will love. So will I, and it will help us have even more relationship containment to hold us through whatever we are going through. I want the same for you.

Let’s face it.. No couple ever imagines at the beginning of their partnership what kind of issues they will get into down the line.

That sprinkling of hormones at the beginning of the journey is pretty damn powerful at creating the perfect fairy dust blinders so we don’t see what is separate from our projections onto our partner of what we want them to be, not as they actually are.

Most, if not all of us, do this.

And then we wonder how we got there when we don’t feel so connected and close.

Because you feel like getting rid of the relationship because you’re not sure how to fix the disconnection. And you don’t know how to get back to how it was at the beginning (which most of my couples crave).

Like my couple Mary and Jay.

They had been together 10 years. Had two kids. Were hugely busy and successful entrepreneurs.

But the spark had been missing for a while now.

It wasn’t that they were in huge distress, it’s just that the love and vitality seemed to have drained out of their connection with each other entirely.

Because I’m always using my senses and intuition as an instrument in the room, I felt that dead-ness within them…that tells me that something is asleep, unconscious, or numb, and I used the location of the dead-ness I felt, and the movement of it, along with the corresponding thoughts and feelings to understand what is going on with this couple (and every couple).. to tell me where we need to begin.

I brought it up… they looked so sad.

And then Mary lifted her head up and spoke.

“”I feel like we’ve lost our way..like we have not enough conscious and deeper structures really holding us..together.””

BOOM. I felt the truth of that.

And what they needed was something that could revitalize them, not a communication practice, but something much larger, more substantial and sustaining.

They needed a shared spiritual practice and perspective.

Which was totally possible.

One that could hold their deepest questions, the way they thought about their relationship and their journey of evolving the challenges forward.

A spiritual practice that included residing in
deeper love together
deeper presence together
deeper awareness together
and deeper inquiry as to what would help them truly revitalize together.

Look, this is not easy for any couple to do, you have to if you want to flourish, so if you want a quick fix, this is not it.

But if you want the deep hot sex, love and closeness that’s possible, you have to make the decision to go deep, go honest, get real….or choose to stay in mediocre meh. It is a choice.

Mary and Jay made the choice, and went all the way with these practices…committed to them every day, and got so much revitalization and soul back in their connection.

They’d spend a few minutes each day, cultivating love by looking in each other’s eyes, and breathing in love, and breathing out love. The same with presence. And awareness.

You think it’s easy to do these things.

But it’s not.

Because they’re vulnerable and deep and they show you everything.

Sparks flew in our next few sessions, and there was more color in their faces (always a good sign) and I felt more energy with them too. The numbness was gone. The deadness lifted.

They had created something that really guided them.. and that held them…exactly where they needed to be held.

It was really special.

And profound.

And full of life, hot sex, closeness and love.. some of the best things in life…for those who are the ones ready to decide to create this for themselves.

What’s ONE thing you can do today, to develop or deepen your spiritual connection and practice with your partner, in a way that supports you exactly the way you need to be held? I’m taking time myself to deepen into my own presence, simple as it sounds, to bring back even more of that to my partner.

And I want you to have that too.. only if you’re finally ready to create it. I’ve got room for one person this week, who wants to create an epic love relationship, so deeply full of soul, who has some stuff that’s in the way and wants me in their corner. Sign up HERE (https://www.freecallwithjoanna.com) for your free call, and I’ll help you with the one thing that will help you get things in a better flow today. This is a precious opportunity to receive my support for FREE (normally a $350 value) and most importantly, to see the difference in your relationship that you know you’re craving deeply.

When my husband and I got into a relationship almost 17 years ago, we were in our early thirties and at the beginning of our relationship journey.

We’d spend endless hours making love, and snuggling, and loving on each other well into the night.

We talked about our future and all the big dreams we had.

And then we got married, had career shifts, had children, bought a house and started to drop deeper into the real work of creating and sustaining an evolutionary partnership.

What did we know!

All kinds of stuff came up, issues we didn’t know were there.

And we began to feel overwhelmed, and honestly, a bit lost.

Even with all our training together (my hubby has pretty much a Masters in psychology – with special training in Hypnosis, but still we even were confronted with our humanity pretty deeply.)

The shame we felt of that at the time. (I felt like I should have been able to figure it out, RIGHT?)

Wrong!

And he’d tell me, “”I love you.. this is sooo hard…we need a larger container.””

I’d agree…even as I grumbled, and offered him my hand, squeezing it, letting him know that no matter what, we were in this together.

And even as we didn’t know what to do, we made simple contact through touching.

Which showed us both, we need containers (as in places or spaces that hold us while we go through whatever we go through), lots of them and it became clear.

We needed a spiritual path.

And we decided to create one together.

We spent the next year getting very clear on what supports we needed.

Mentally – like what kind of mindset would support us, and help us stay clear.

Emotionally – like what intelligence would be needed to govern the seas of how deeply we felt.

Physically – like what fitness, nutrition and environment would be needed to support us fully.

Sexually – like what our desires were, what we longed for, what we needed, what releases wanted to happen.

Financially – how we wanted to govern our financial lives, our investments, our contributions to society (which meant a lot to us).

Instinctually – and what traumas we needed to clear from our nervous system, from the lineage so we could function exceptionally clearly and without feeling encumbered.

You might be thinking, whoa.. that’s a lot.

But it happened over time.

With incredible support, and many layers of heartfelt mentors and guides..

To what we have today…

Which is precious…deep.. sacred.. loving…and very hot!

A relationship with deep soul…guided by wisdom…and resting in love.

I wouldn’t trade the journey .. with all its’ ups and downs for anything.

And I want you to have that too.. only if you’re finally ready to create it. I’ve got room for one person this week, who wants to create an epic love relationship, so deeply full of soul, who has some stuff that’s in the way and wants me in their corner. Sign up HERE (https://freecallwithjoanna.com) for your free call, and I’ll help you with the one thing that will help you get things in a better flow today. This is a precious opportunity to receive my support for FREE (normally a $350 value) and most importantly, to see the difference in your relationship that you know you’re craving deeply.