Parenting

If you’re being really honest with yourself I know you’re going to make some observations about the transmission of love, connectedness, intimacy, sexuality and conflict resolution that you are passing on to your children. If you check out the nudge and the practice for this week at https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10157824667265555 and https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10157830725135555, you’ll see the pre-steps that will help make…

Last winter my son Emanuel, (who is now 11), told me. “Mom, I want the dating pool at school to be larger. I want a relationship like you and Daddy have.” This really touched me for a number of reasons. And what I appreciate it did here, was it had me look at how I’m…

This week’s live stream in our Facebook Group HERE (https://www.facebook.com/groups/278275709185342/) was SO much fun. I love it when there’s a mix of mom’s and dad’s on my livestream.. and hearing how well this landed for people. And if you’re wondering what five minutes of time to take today, to get your loving, sexing and closeness…

Last week my clients Jim and Nancy came in so overwhelmed and frustrated. Jim was feeling overwhelmed with work. The startup owners were disorganized and chaotic. Nancy ran her own online business, managed a team of three, and was pregnant with their second child. Their first child was three, and had been in the ‘terrible…

As a parent, I’m always watching if and what my kids reflect back to my hubby and I. For example, what patterns repeat over and over, or what distress patterns might they be in…always asking, what are they trying to share, get me to feel, looking to me to guide them through (no matter what…

We had a difficult family (us and our kids) conversation a few years ago, and because we are a fiery bunch, there was some interrupting and colorful exchanges. I never want to pretend to you that I am perfect, because I’m a human just like you who makes mistakes and can be vulnerable and can…

One of the things I love about being a parent, is that my children let me know very directly what they need, how they need it, and exactly when they need it by. Sometimes I can do really well with responding to it, and sometimes I fail. And when I fail I like to repair,…

We have been covering the subject of how in your family life to deal with repair, attunement, emotional overwhelm and creating specialness rituals in your family unit. And it’s not easy because I know you’re busy so I’m going to get straight to the point. The word ‘re’, literally means to do again and the…

That was really fun on our live stream yesterday. I love it when people give themselves the gift of being able to take five minutes and get the things that are going to catapult them into love, sex, and closeness, even while being parents. Why? Because so often, what I hear from my clients and…

There’s such a palpable sweetness that happens when you’re sitting in the room with clients or working with them and the issue of repair, attunement and regulation comes up. You know, the number one job of parents is to help their children feel emotionally regulated which is very difficult when we haven’t learned to do…