Category: Soul Fulfillment

You’ve been fed a big fat lie about relationships.

And Hollywood has sealed the lie by often making relationship look easier to navigate that it can be.

Look, you’re human. You have conditioning.

You have karma, whatever it is.

It may not be what you lead with, but you still have it, and at some point in your relationship journey, you will have to deal with it.

And before you even subscribe to any of these myths, I’m here to bust them so you can get straight on track, right now and get closer to the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness you actually desire. (And c’mon, somewhere in there you need it too, if you admit it.)

One.

It’s going to be easy all the time.
>> umm, no… that’s a lie you’ve been fed by Hollywood and those Social Media starlets that only ever post pictures of perfection. #notrealistic. Just sayin’.

Two.

You don’t have to grow, you can just coast on what you have.
>> show me one relationship that’s like that, that hasn’t ever hit a pocket of humanity, conditioning or some kind of karma getting worked out. There’s a place you HAVE to be willing to do the work.

Three

You can be in a god realm all the time and never have to deal with any humanity.
>> umm, another big NO. I think that’s called #spiritualbypass, and it has a nasty lash-back called drama, which often goes along with trauma. So you’ve got to clear and do your trauma work.

And the best part? Actually doing this release work is EXACTLY what gives you the foundation to begin to have the relationship love, sex and deep closeness you desire and you need support from someone who is aware (and very keen) of these myths and how they disguise themselves to you.. and I’m here to help you move right on through them.

Which one of the myths have you been feeding on? Ready to release the weight of it? Who’s in?

Soul lessons (in relationships) are NO freakin’ joke.

They can put you through the ringer of your humanity until you get the teaching and return to your true self.

It’s just how it is.

Until it isn’t.

And there’s a way to get to the isn’t part..

Ready?

Only the brave and those who are truly ready to transform their relationship struggles do this..

Own your relationship soul lessons with your partner. All of them that you can recall. Even the ones from prior relationships. Go all the way in the sharing. Take massive responsibility for your part. All they need to do is simply listen to you.

For example, you might share that you you could have gone deeper to own your part when your hubby get frustrated with you, but at the time you never owned how you may make the process more difficult…instead choosing to be quieter and less accountable than you could be…a really good one to own..(I hear something like this a lot.)

Or, you might share that you could have gone deeper when your partner shared a difficult experience with you the other week and instead of giving 100% empathy, you held back some as you were preoccupied or still hurt from something else the week before.. so sharing how when you get hurt, you hold back empathy or don’t give it full on.. that’s a deep one..

And then, if they’re willing (and daring) they do it with you.

Go after all the parts.

See what happens to your relationship.

If it still feels sticky, you missed something.

Repeat.

Let me know how it goes.

When things feel really painful between you and your partner, you can feel like, wtf, where are we going and how do we navigate this so that we can get through it, WELL?

You can scroll and ignore this, because you’re so ‘busy,’ and yes, you are…but what’s going to anchor you, keep the challenges evolving in a good way and get lots of integration happening to help get on with having all the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness you desire, (Let’s face it, you have needs and they’re not going away anytime soon.)

Here’s what to do now.

Make it a practice this week to keep the dialogue alive with your partner on these questions –

>>>What are the soul lessons through this challenge?<<<
>>>What am I learning?<<<
>>>What parts of myself am I being asked to open to?<<<

Ask.
Listen.
Integrate.

I guarantee you, the struggle, the rub, the challenge, the edge.. Whatever it is for you.. It CAN’T stay the same.

IF you do the work.. To be in relationship.. with what’s there.. The lessons, the opening, the inner parts…all of it!

That’s it.

There are those that do the work and get the results..The Hot Sex, Love and Closeness yumminess you’ve been deeply desiring and craving…

And there are those that will sit in the discomfort and do nothing. They’ll end up with the same feelings of hopelessness, struggle and frustration that’s slow motion strangling your relationship and all the goodness in it.

And if you’re ready to do the soul work you know you need to release the tension.. This is what it requires.. And I want to know who’s ready to do it?

We always have a fantastic time on our live streams and yesterday was no exception.

Can we be honest about relationship for a real minute?

There’s a point in every relationship (no matter how wonderful they are) where there can be challenges, disconnection and BIG lessons.

I’ve had an amazing relationship (and I need amazing :-))…and I only know what that is because I’ve also had unfathomable challenging and stretching to grow, from deep within my soul.

Ever had that?

If you have, you want to keep growing and you want to keep learning. But what do you do when you’re not sure what’s happening deep into your soul and the lessons it is trying to learn?

Most of my clients know they’re on a soul journey whether it’s work, business or relationship. A journey of the soul that takes them through their purpose and their evolutionary lessons.

But sometimes they’re so hard to tease out, aren’t they? And you wonder how to make it easier.

Which is exactly why I went live to help you to;

– KNOW how to identify the soul lessons that are coming up for you and catapult your relationship into ease.
– GET stronger so you can face what’s in front of you and turn it into gold which you then get to use to support you ongoingly.
– WHAT to do when you need grounding and support and this is going to anchor you into exactly what you need to turn things around.

Look, it’s easy to go at this alone. That’s the norm. And you can do that IF you can hang with the stress in a good way that’s working for you.

Or, you can check out the live stream and get the resources you need instead.

I know which one I’d chose, and it’s what led me to the love, sex and closeness, which I (and you) deserve.

Can’t wait to see you there.

I’m always fascinated by the way couples come into the room.

I observe the eye contact, the walk, the energy.. And it often foreshadows the session.

Like my clients Lori and John… they seemed a bit ashamed, and wanted to be dignified. They were reluctant to come in, and yet knew they needed to.

They had an EPIC falling in love period, and that was over and now they had two kids, two self employed businesses and wanted to have things be easier… as sex has fizzled, love felt weary and intimacy felt thin.

They kept getting stuck…and owned they didn’t want to feel like victims to their shadows, but acknowledged that they did.

They wanted to feel empowered, they considered themselves ‘woke’, and thought they were smarter than this struggle.

They were smart, but from my years of training, I know there are many kinds of smart – instinctual intelligence, emotional intelligence, intuitive wisdom, karmic wisdom and creative wisdom…and they really needed support on how to access the wisdom in their soul…and for these particular challenges they were having right now.

I’ve studied with some of the most genuine spiritual teachers, who taught me the tremendous value of inquiry…the practice to access the deeper layers of the self.. (if you don’t know this.. You’ll want to)

And so with this couple, we sat with the difficult question…

How intimate are you with the lessons from the difficulties in your relationship?

What are the soul lessons that come with the difficulty in your relationship?

We asked that questions many times. We all listened together. We listened with heart, mind, body and soul. We heard the different responses. We sat with the struggle together. They learned it could be tolerated. We got the clarity – and they used the intelligence they had in one area to access the wisdom from their soul here.

And from there, it was integration time.

We took the clarity, and then helped that get resourced in the body, in the nervous system, in the heart and the mind.

And from there, creativity flowed on what to do next.

They went from feeling stuck in their heads, to feeling more open in their hearts. And from thinking they each knew exactly what was going on into a curiosity that loosened the tight grip of their thoughts that caused conflict and contraction.

I loved watching them get happier and more loved up looking 😉. Their energy in our space together was palpably more connected, viscerally alive, present, clear and extremely creative. It was like all the lights turned on, excitement about being together and the future was present. So exciting.. And I want the whole world to have it.

Including you.

Honestly, it doesn’t have to be hard, it is simply a process away and I know I’m the best person to help guide you through the trenches so you can have it too.

Tell me what’s ONE thing you’ll do this week to start to listen more deeply to your soul. I can’t wait to hear what it is.

And.. I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is really working hard to address the soul lessons that are coming up in their relationship, and know there has to be an easier path… Get on this while there’s an opening.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

I spoke many times about how no one taught me how to have hot sex, love and closeness relationship, I had to learn myself. Maybe you had to figure it out for yourself too…

I mean literally, I was starting from the scratch, undoing mountains of trauma and family ancestral healing work, coming into a relationship with my own body, my own heart, my own free will and my deep longing to not only share love but also receive it as well, not the kind of love that is a child seeking a parent unconditional kind of love but deep mature and hot, sexy, love, intimacy and closeness.

Fortunately, I attracted a partner who was willing to do the same kind of work and as you can imagine there were so many deep soul lessons in store for us that we had no idea about when we first got together.

The issues come up as you know they do, and sometimes you need contexts and you just don’t know how to organize things. Sometimes it’s about emotional intelligence like I talked about a few weeks ago HERE (https://www.facebook.com/joanna.intara/posts/10158043514850555).

And sometimes it’s about learning healthy regulation as I’ve shared before. Sometimes it’s about practical things like date nights, taking breaks and family rituals.

And other times, and this has probably been the hardest part, it’s been reckoning with the deepest soul lessons that brought us together so we could resolve those and release even deeper, our creativity and purpose out into the world, and our family.

There were times that were so hard that I felt like quitting, giving up and just going back to single life. I didn’t have the resources to do this, let alone do it well which was required to be successful.

I felt lost, hopeless and depressed at moments when I was confronted with the sheer volume of inner work that was needed in order to heal and become fully whole and functional and trauma-free, so that relationship could function really easily.

Definitely, there were times when my hubby wanted to quit as well, and he would say, ‘There’s just so much here to address’, as he was feeling overwhelmed much like myself. I really didn’t know what to do at times, and sometimes when it was really hard, I got down on my knees and asked the powers that be.. what the lesson was, what was the soul lesson?

And in that inquiry, and in that openness I, and my husband, we both asked what were the true soul lessons…even if we were in pain, in the shadow of doubt…we kept going with asking.. Letting go of knowing anything..and then…

– Revelation would happen,
– opening would happen,
– answers would come in.

And the more sincere our inquiry was, the more truth was revealed.. Our soul lessons…

And when we applied those.. Boom, our love grew, our intimacy flourished.. And sex became even more amazing..

And still there’s work to do. I’m not over here in a castle eating bon bons and pretending anything. I’m right here with you, doing the work every day to create the relationship I want and enjoy. You get to have that too.

Are you in to get your soul lessons clear, even through the challenges? (especially through them so you can convert them into the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness allies you need to bring you all the way into true balance and connection.)

If you are, gimme a shout out… so I can send some good mojo and a spiritual flashlight of love your way so you can be even more resourced.

And.. I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is really working hard to address the soul lessons that are coming up in their relationship, and know there has to be an easier path… Get on this while there’s an opening.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

What desires do you have for your relationship?

You know, the juicy ones, the ones that light your soul on fire?

The deepest ones.. the most vulnerable ones..

The ones that leave you feeling holy OMG.. I shared that?

Those ones that especially pertain to

Hot Sex,

Love,

Closeness

Those ones are the ones I dare you to share with your partner.

This week.

Today.

Don’t wait.

Just do it…

Share it any way you can.

Text, email, in person (how bout that?)

Whispering in each other’s ear at night..

Slowly..presently..

“From my soul.. I desire to…. !@#$%…”

The ones who do so.. usually end up having it happen.

Don’t wait another minute.

I just practiced this am.. with my hubby.. as we held each other in bed.

Trust me. 🙂

It works Really well.

What ONE thing are you going to do to make this a priority?

What’s that? You have other things you’re going to do instead?

Don’t.

Just don’t.

Soul lit love in the center is everything.

You get to have it.

All the way. You deserve it.

And if this is touching you in that place where it’s feeling really hard, or you can’t seem to open up enough to do it, reach out to me, because I have been there, and I know the edginess involved and I want you to get it.

Of all the things I LOVE the most about my partnership with my hubby is the level of soul-infused love and wisdom we give to each other and our relationship…right in the sticky spots.

We didn’t always know how to do it.. but we knew we had to learn, otherwise when trouble hits, as you know it will, we could have disconnected and drifted apart, like so many couples do.

Don’t do that.. instead, practice this instead.

Sit in front of each other.

Drop into your hearts.

Actually FEEL the sensation of your heartbeat.. as you look at each other.

Maintain eye contact as you do it.

Breathe in love from the love you already have.

Exhale love to the places that need it.

You don’t even need to know or share where those are.

Just trust your intuition.

And your heart.

Feel how that is together.

This is creating a spiritual container.

One that holds you.

And helps you pull through.

If you practice it.

Which you must.

Before you find yourself in another tender spot that feels groundless and unsupported.

This is literally what’s helped me thrive in relationship with soul.

You get to have it too, if you’re ready to claim it.

What’s the ONE thing you’re going to do to prioritize this practice today? For me, I love putting things in my calendar, that way I’m absolutely positive it’s going to happen.

What do you do when you need more support? When your relationship is falling apart at the seams and you’re not sure what’s next? You LEAN IN for more support, in all the layers, in all the ways you need to, so that you can get shored up, and back on track. And where do you go before you’re on the verge of breaking up, calling it quits, or faced with another lonely night? You watch THIS.

From the emotional to the mental, to physical to spiritual, life and most of our upbringing’s do a pretty poor job on educating us on how to develop and cultivate the things that are needed so that your relationship can truly blossom and be everything you KNOW it’s meant to (think Hot Sex, Luscious Loving and Intimate Closeness even IF you have kids). Which is why, if there’s ONE thing you can do, the underlies all the other things, it’s THIS, and I shared this in our Live Stream this week so that you can know what needs to be done, how to do it, and find out the non negotiable key that helped my relationship soar from struggle and stress to sublimely soulful. You don’t have to have anything figured out, just check it out ..

When the very floorboards of your relationship are coming apart…

And you feel pushed against a wall…

And you need deeper support..

A larger container to hold you through it…

What are you going to do?

There’s nothing left except THIS.

Commit to the spiritual path.

Find out what brings you alive spiritually!

Is it love, awareness or presence?

Is it hot sex, or a connection with the divine?

Whatever it is, I’m telling you…. FIND out what IT is!

For me, it’s space to relax. To find my breath, which takes me to my essence.
And from that essence place, everything comes so much easier. All the answers you’ve been wanting.

For some of my clients, it’s finding time to literally sit next to each other and look into each other’s eyes and just open the question.

Get going.

No time to lose.

Life is happening…

And time is going by.

If the disconnection and struggle aren’t enough to nudge you out of inaction, then consider this your mirror today.

What’s the ONE thing you’re going to do today to start getting clear on what’s going to bring you alive spiritually?

I’m thrilled to re-clarify the spiritual practices I do with my husband. He will love. So will I, and it will help us have even more relationship containment to hold us through whatever we are going through. I want the same for you.