Let’s face it.. No couple ever imagines at the beginning of their partnership what kind of issues they will get into down the line. That sprinkling of hormones at the beginning of the journey is pretty damn powerful at creating the perfect fairy dust blinders so we don’t see what is separate from our projections…
When my husband and I got into a relationship almost 17 years ago, we were in our early thirties and at the beginning of our relationship journey. We’d spend endless hours making love, and snuggling, and loving on each other well into the night. We talked about our future and all the big dreams we…
We’re working a lot this week with how to let all the wonderful things in your partnership and the goodness expand into something even more powerful and miraculous in your work, in your family, and your lives, because having a great relationship is the foundation for everything else in life feeling really great too, so…
Every single week, I hear people express the angst of their longing to have more hot sex, love and closeness. People say things like, how can I make things hotter between us? How can I increase the love between us? How can we create more intimacy and closeness and have it be easier? Or even…
We always have a fantastic time on our livestreams and yesterday was no exception. Sometimes, there’s so much suffering and difficulty that I see in the areas of love, closeness, intimacy and true soul-satisfying connection. The complaints can be epic, the struggle is real and hearts are on the line every single second. If you’re…
One of the best teachings in my year study of Tibetan Buddhism was the practice of Tonglen, or lovingkindness meditation. I use this with my clients and myself to help metabolize difficult states. In it, you bring compassion and lovingkindness to the things that seem most undesirable, most unwanted and most rejectable, and bring them…
I used to look for what was missing in my relationship. I felt alone, lonely, always separate. I didn’t understand why I did it, but one day I knew I had to get to the bottom of it. And what I saw after sitting with the feeling of the missing-ness, the sensations of it in…
Well that was fun, To share a transmission of how to start ENDING some serious struggle that will help you have the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness you so deeply crave. Listen, I know it can be FULL on fun house ride in relationship. It’s an evolutionary requirement in relationship to learn…
Every day I talk to couples and people in relationship who feel overwhelmed, stuck and uncertain. They feel insecure, unhappy, and at the bottom of it, alone. The thing is, it doesn’t need to be this way. You’ve just gotten into some habits that don’t serve you, and if you got into…
When my most volatile couple did THIS, the entire suffering apex of their relationship upleveled, even though they would be the last to have predicted it ever would. Sometimes the couples who some may think won’t make it, are the ones who end up surprising you the most. Like my clients Tess and Tina. They…