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Feeling Safe And Anchored Into Your Feeling Good Center Is NOT Just A Mind Shift Away.

The coaching industryโ€™s standard on mindset to change everything is missing some serious foundational pieces that make me want to scream from the rooftops..โ€๐ผ๐‘‡โ€™๐‘† ๐‘๐‘‚๐‘‡ ๐‘Œ๐‘‚๐‘ˆ๐‘… ๐น๐ด๐‘ˆ๐ฟ๐‘‡ ๐‘€๐ผ๐‘๐ท๐‘†๐ธ๐‘‡ ๐ผ๐‘†๐‘โ€™๐‘‡ ๐‘Š๐‘‚๐‘…๐พ๐ผ๐‘๐บโ€ฆโ€ and then blanket you in a warm-hearted, forgiving embrace.

And while youโ€™re feeling that…

Know this!  

๐‘†๐‘œ๐‘š๐‘’๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘‘๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘Ÿ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘™๐‘’ (๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘™๐‘’๐‘กโ€™๐‘  ๐‘“๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘ก, ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘’๐‘‘๐‘’๐‘‘) ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘› โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘‘..๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘™๐‘–๐‘’๐‘“, ๐‘–๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘› โ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘ž๐‘ข๐‘–๐‘๐‘˜๐‘™๐‘ฆ..

Look, I know youโ€™ve been guided to just โ€˜get on with it,โ€™ and โ€˜get your damn mindset correct,โ€™ and everything else will just flow from there.  

…๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’„๐’‚๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’‡๐’Š๐’™ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’…๐’”๐’†๐’•, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’Š๐’” ๐’”๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’˜๐’“๐’๐’๐’ˆ ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’š๐’๐’–, ๐’๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’š๐’๐’–โ€™๐’“๐’† ๐’ˆ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’๐’•๐’„๐’‰ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’๐’‚๐’–๐’๐’„๐’‰ ๐’๐’“ ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’๐’ ๐’”๐’‚๐’๐’†๐’” ๐’๐’“ ๐’„๐’๐’Š๐’†๐’๐’•๐’”.

…๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’…๐’”๐’†๐’• ๐’Š๐’” ๐’†๐’—๐’†๐’“๐’š๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’“๐’๐’Ž๐’‚๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’„ ๐’“๐’†๐’๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”๐’‰๐’Š๐’‘๐’” (๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’”) ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’‚๐’๐’ ๐’”๐’–๐’‡๐’‡๐’†๐’“ ๐’–๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’  ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’… ๐’”๐’„๐’“๐’†๐’˜๐’†๐’… ๐’๐’ ๐’”๐’•๐’“๐’‚๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’• ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‹๐’–๐’”๐’• ๐’‡๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’Œ๐’Š๐’โ€™ โ€˜๐’…๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’…๐’‚๐’Ž๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ.โ€™

I see this every day.

I see how hard youโ€™ve worked.

How relentlessly and disciplined youโ€™ve been with mindset, and how deeply hopeful youโ€™ve been that if you just jump through the next hoop, itโ€™ll all come through – everything youโ€™ve been wishing and wanting for, right?

Iโ€™ve been a classic case study.  No matter how much mindset work I did (and let me share, I worked my mind off), all the soul-satisfying success I dreamed of in work and romantic relationship eluded me.

Each day I was diligent. 

 I sat at my altar. 

 I made my intentions clear. 

 I meditated and did thousands of prostrations and visualizations. 

 I scripted how I wanted everything to be. 

 I was so deeply devoted, probably like you have been. 

 I recorded my sacred, scripted prayers on apps, and then listened to them non stop, even while sleeping.

But I couldnโ€™t manifest any of those things upon a foundation where some of the very successes I wanted – more income, and a more connected partnership ๐’˜๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’•๐’“๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’“๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’–๐’๐’‰๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’†๐’… ๐’˜๐’๐’–๐’๐’…๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’…๐’”๐’†๐’• ๐’˜๐’๐’–๐’๐’…๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’‡๐’Š๐’™.    

Youโ€™ve probably been dealing with this same burden.

You know what that feels like.  

 ๐‘‡โ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘โ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘™ ๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘™.  ๐ผ๐‘ก โ„Ž๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก๐‘ .  ๐ผ๐‘กโ€™๐‘  โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘ฃ๐‘ฆ ๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘œ๐‘œ ๐‘“๐‘Ÿ๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘Ÿ๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘›๐‘”๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘๐‘Ž๐‘–๐‘›๐‘“๐‘ข๐‘™..

๐€๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ – ๐ข๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ง๐ž๐ซ๐ฏ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ, ๐ข๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐›๐จ๐๐ฒ, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐œ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ซ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ž๐ฆ๐›๐จ๐๐ข๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐œ๐ก ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐š ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐๐Ž๐–, ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐œ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ.

I know you want to flip the switch dear loves, and youโ€™ve been fed the mindset fixes it all story – but there is a story underneath all the minds that exist in the world.  

๐ผ๐‘ก ๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ โ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘ก.

๐ผ๐‘ก ๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘œ๐‘‘๐‘ฆ.

๐ผ๐‘ก ๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘›๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฃ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘  ๐‘ ๐‘ฆ๐‘ ๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘š.

๐ผ๐‘ก ๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘๐‘’๐‘™๐‘™๐‘ .

๐ด๐‘›๐‘‘ โ„Ž๐‘œ๐‘ค ๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘”๐‘ข๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘’๐‘‘.

Moment by moment.

๐‘‡โ„Ž๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘‘๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›, ๐‘ˆ๐‘๐ท๐ธ๐‘…๐‘๐ธ๐ด๐‘‡๐ป ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘š๐‘–๐‘›๐‘‘.

๐ด๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘› ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘˜๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘ค ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘™๐‘‘๐‘›โ€™๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘–๐‘™๐‘‘ ๐‘Ž ๐‘ ๐‘˜๐‘ฆ๐‘ ๐‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘“๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘š ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘ ๐‘˜๐‘ฆ ๐‘‘๐‘œ๐‘ค๐‘›, ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘”๐‘’๐‘ก ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘ก ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘ค๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘™๐‘‘๐‘›โ€™๐‘ก ๐‘ก๐‘Ÿ๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘™๐‘Ž๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘ โ„Ž๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘ ๐‘ข๐‘๐‘๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘ ๐‘ข๐‘โ„Ž ๐‘Ž ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ ๐‘’๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘Ÿ.

๐‘Œ๐‘œ๐‘ข ๐‘๐‘ข๐‘–๐‘™๐‘‘ ๐‘–๐‘ก ๐‘“๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘š ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘”๐‘Ÿ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘›๐‘‘ ๐‘ข๐‘.  

Real foundation.

Which makes real sustainability.

Like I did.ย  Each place where the foundation of the heart, body, and nervous system lives, needs our presence, awareness, and caring, compassionate, and resourced self.

Like my clients do.  Facing the body.  Turning towards it with love, care, presence, and awareness.

This is what creates true roots inside you, true present moment, safe infrastructure – what helps flip the feel good center to GOOD from the sludge youโ€™ve been unnecessarily swamping through.

No more spinning your wheels.  

This is how it works.

And the space I hold for this unfoldment to happen is exactly my magic.

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