Shayna and Daniel were a typical couple that I work with.
Married 8 years, together for 11 years, three small children, age 8, 5 and 3.
Successful at work, driven to be conscious parents and have it all, because, why not?
But when they came to see me, they were absolutely at their wits end.
Ready to separate because the disconnection between them was so extreme.
And they felt that the kids sucked every last bit of good energy out of them, with nothing left for each other, let alone growing the love they both complained not only that they desired, but deserved.
And as is typical, the work together started with complaint, although very subtle, but even more palpable..you could feel it against the backdrop of how much they felt like they used to love each other, and wanted to, but just couldn’t just connect or find a way to do it.
But they hadn’t given up yet, even though they felt tempted in their hopelessness, because they still fought for each other, even if it seemed to look, “against” each other at times in the way they blamed and attributed the trouble between them to the other person.
“I can’t feel the love in the same way we used to,” Daniel complained…as he looked at Shayna with hurt, worry and a bit of irritation in his voice.
“You’re always on your phone…and you’ll text me at home, long before we have an actual face to face conversation…” Shayna huffed. “We’re obviously last.” The words stung the air of possibility with the hurt that had grown between them.
It’s so common when we feel triggered, to hide our most primary emotions from each other – the emotions that lay underneath the blame, the criticizing, the judgment, the attribution…
And when we can feel safe with each other…to lay down the armor that actually fuels the disconnection and love-less feeling, to connect in heart, WITH the real vulnerability, of the true feelings that lay underneath it all…
s l o w l y
r e a p e t e d l y
i n t e n t i o n a l l y
…and receive each other…
…without further offense…
…and care for each other right there..
…with compassion, creativity and empathy…
It’s like lighting a candle in a cave that’s been dark for ages and watching eyes, hearts, breath and bodies FILL UP with love and delight, like they’re meant to…like you’re meant to…
It suddenly becomes very vibrant, juicy and alive in the room.. having experienced it viscerally thousands of times.
Like Shayna and Daniel..who with this work, and the active work on learning to experience emotional intimacy and heart opening..not through the mind, but through the body and experience…in a VERY fun way, I might add..
Standing across from each other, one of them holding the masculine energy, and one of them holding the feminine energy, switching roles, using movement, music, feedback, and connection to ground that emerging sizzling connection with each other..
I loved watching the sparks beginning to fly.. and noticing that it leads to GREAT things…
I mean, you could keep trying to shut down this love, that is trying to happen…
You could keep doing the walk around…but at what price..?
And for how much longer can you tolerate this? While trying to hold it together at work and for the kids?
Like how many people do you know just hang on and hope it will get better…and suffer..and where do they end up?
Or you can be received and supported by an expert with over 30 years and 30,000 hours of client experience, to resolve the issue and get happening all the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness you desire..
If you find yourself in the Shayna and Daniel conversation, and KNOW your time has come to end this painful dynamic forever, I KNOW how to help you do it…because I have done it myself, and helped thousands of others do the same and get on to some really good loving.
Coz life is Waay to short for anything less.
Tell me below, do you relate? Do you feel like the kids have taken your energy and enthusiasm for your relationship?
What are you waiting for?
And…. I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.
