Look, I’m not promising you a rose garden in love.
There will be places, no matter how skilled and brilliant you are, where the lack of peace is present and you wish it was easier.
I should know, I came to my relationship full of emotional overwhelm and stress that had not been regulated properly and my husband came from a shutdown place, similar to a lot of men.
And with all the brilliance between us, it took some work to find the core emotional regulators that were critical to sustaining a powerful evolutionary relationship versus to those who didn’t have these.. and then broke up and didn’t make it.
You’ve got to find out what creates emotional peace between you, which means identifying what’s in the way of emotional peace, and doing it in a way that is intelligent, regulating and actually helps the emotions get met and the stress decreased.
Start thinking and assessing your levels of empathy, your ability to be self-aware, your motivation skills and your ability to self-regulate and be social. This is exactly where someone like me, who is professionally trained can support you in cultivating and deepening these qualities.
Start to consider and become more aware of your impact on others especially in regards to these areas.
Your ability to self-assess is a critical key to how your relationship has a good emotional IQ.
Where are you at?
What ONE thing will you do this week to strengthen your emotional intelligence skills?
I’m going to self assess my regulation skills where I have stresses. I’m excited to see where I can tweak or shift things, so that things will continue to open in ease for me.
Can’t wait to hear yours.
