For years, all I heard in the coaching industry was simply decide.
I knew it worked for a lot of people, but it didn’t seem like it worked for me, or for many of my clients and it was baffling and painful.
What was I doing wrong?
Why can’t I just pull it together?
Or the hopeless idea… ‘Maybe I’m just not destined to have a great sex life, because I just can’t freaking decide and make it be different?’
My hubby and I had grown our family, with two beautiful children, careers in motion, self care and family life balance trying to happen. Just a ‘few small’ things happening.
But our sex life, was OFF track.
Not happening at times.
I couldn’t even find my brain at times, let alone my yoni.
It wasn’t easy or fun.
And my hubby was like, ‘Babe, I miss us.’ I missed us too. Or the ‘us’ I recalled but couldn’t find anymore because it no longer existed.
And as we talked about us, I realized this very important thing.
The process of decision is one that is about death, endings and a fork in the road.
Even the word De-Cide.. represents two options.. one way or another…and one way has to
go, die, if you will.
And we had to make that choice, to consciously surrender, to let go of what wasn’t working in our sex life so we could create the one that would.
Yes, we eventually decided..
But that in between place,
that death place where you have to let go…
Of what doesn’t work, and no longer serves you…
No one talked to us about that..
Which is why I am here with you to talk about it.
To lovingly share with you that…
You will need to let go, put an end to, release, say goodbye to
ALL kinds of things in relationship.. including sexual things that need to go too.
And once you do.. only THEN will you be able ‘decide’ to have a better sex life…
Like we did too. We had to say goodbye to the things that truly didn’t serve us. We had to be honest with each other about what those places were outdated and no longer fed us in any way. And this is what works with clients too. Nothing can be instantaneously decided until you have truly let go.
Share with me ONE thing you can do today to bring an end to what you KNOW, must go…
For me… I need ceremony to say goodbye.. I’m a bit a pyro so I burn things in pots and declare that whatever the thing is that needs to go, knows, it’s time and it’s on it’s way out.
And if you find yourself not knowing how to let go the things you know you most need to.. in order to decide to birth the hot sex relationship that you’re meant to be having, I’ve got room for ONE person (https://www.freecallwithjoanna.com/) open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.
Love to hear what that is for you.
