Soul lessons (in relationships) are NO freakin’ joke.
They can put you through the ringer of your humanity until you get the teaching and return to your true self.
It’s just how it is.
Until it isn’t.
And there’s a way to get to the isn’t part..
Ready?
Only the brave and those who are truly ready to transform their relationship struggles do this..
Own your relationship soul lessons with your partner. All of them that you can recall. Even the ones from prior relationships. Go all the way in the sharing. Take massive responsibility for your part. All they need to do is simply listen to you.
For example, you might share that you you could have gone deeper to own your part when your hubby get frustrated with you, but at the time you never owned how you may make the process more difficult…instead choosing to be quieter and less accountable than you could be…a really good one to own..(I hear something like this a lot.)
Or, you might share that you could have gone deeper when your partner shared a difficult experience with you the other week and instead of giving 100% empathy, you held back some as you were preoccupied or still hurt from something else the week before.. so sharing how when you get hurt, you hold back empathy or don’t give it full on.. that’s a deep one..
And then, if they’re willing (and daring) they do it with you.
Go after all the parts.
See what happens to your relationship.
If it still feels sticky, you missed something.
Repeat.
Let me know how it goes.
