Sometimes my couples get into a rut.
They’ve cleared away a lot of the triggers, but there are some pernicious little buggers that seem to resurface just when people think the coast is clear.
You’re having a nice Sunday at the beach, followed by a great lunch, maybe a glass of wine…and there it comes.. round the bend of an innocent little comment…from one of the kids… that launched you both into a full scale mini horrible impasse and YOU had to take a time out, not your kids lol.
Ughh.. it’s SO not fun, and it drives me nuts when people pretend it doesn’t happen, but it does… more than people acknowledge…
And my job is to help people feel more supported in being more open about it…
And that’s why I’m here.. with a practice for you, for EXACTLY this…
And that is..
.. to reveal even more vulnerability..
…to be even more honest in how something makes you feel
…to be undefended about it
… and TO have even greater compassion, empathy and creative supports to let that vulnerability get integrated.
So for example, if you’re the one getting triggered out of nowhere, you can stop, breathe, find the vulnerable feeling, the innermost truth of it, take another deep breath and share it with your partner.
No defense, no attack, no critique… just sharing from that place.
Now, how good would that feel?
Just imagine it..
How would that feel in your body… what are the sensations that go along with that…and then breathe into them.. and let that goodness spread all over your body..
And then see what’s next…
Practice this = no more tenacious Sunday mishaps.
Lemme hear a ‘yes’ in the comments if you’re in.
Can’t wait to hear what you think.
