I hear every day that couples want relationship life to be EASIER.
Easier with the kids.
Easier with connection.
Easier with sex, love and closeness.
And I’d be lying if I let you believe it has all been a bed of roses for me, as some people think…it has NOT.
It has been a WHOLE journey,
a LIBERATION journey,
a connecting, loving, definitely amazing, …Aaaand potent, transformative, freakin’ journey.
There are so many things that go into creating hot sex, love and connected relationship. People think it’s surface basic stuff and that’s not realistic.
It seriously takes inner resources that few of us arrive at adulthood having what’s truly needed, even though you feel like you should just automatically arrive at adulthood with them.
I know, because I hear every day through some sort of challenged perspective from my clients,
“…we need a bigger view…,
…how do I not take things as personally?…
…what do we do when we’re stuck that actually makes sense?
…that actually works?…”
The EXACT same things I once deeply struggled with.
and because I didn’t have these things figured out…
It HURT, a lot!
Disconnection, frustration, lack of closeness…not the ideal sex I desired…
Questioning myself.
Us questioning each other.
Doubting.
Enactments.
Probably in one shade or another, what you’re experiencing as well.
Nobody likes to talk about it, but it’s an EPIDEMIC.
And I believe we’ve got TO put ourselves out of our own misery so we CAN experience The Hot Sex, Love and Closeness we desire and deserve.
Even though we can stay in the same disconnection patterns that cause unhappiness and love lost, and sometimes for a painfully long, disconnected time, even only IF in certain places or pockets between you.. the rub.. RUBS!
And I know how tempting that can be to feel like you’re never going to get out of it…
Because that’s EXACTLY how we BOTH felt…
And because I drank from that well.. it was family transmitted…so for a long time I thought it was normal. Usual and familiar…{{as in root word of FAMILY 😉 }}
And it took a long time to get to the root of what created the problem.
Let alone the inner resources to satisfy my hunger on how to really have the love, sex and closeness I desired.
And in ending the struggle,
I embraced the partnership and the journey of it, AS SPIRITUAL PATH,
Which deepened EVERYTHING.
Because you need a bigger perspective, especially when it comes to partnership..
Because relationship is the place where your mind can make things small,
…and your conditioning can sometimes make you contract around love,
…and those of you that are parents will resonate; you’re confronted with more input than you can sometimes feasibly handle.
And it wasn’t enough to become more aware of our patterns, our feelings, our wounds and injuries along with the creativity and heart to heal it.
We had to embrace our challenges and desires for growth through a wider lense,
…a more compassionate lens
…a more impersonal lens
…an undeniably more wise and loving lens.
And this became the beginning of our spiritual path as relationship,
And it’s only continued to grow,
And deepen…
And heal…
And repair..
And bring certain things to an end {that needed to…}
And birth to other things.. that we both deeply desired…
And to grow love, real promise-land, sustainable, true love.. NOT the love of romantic fantasy and projection kinda love.
And I tell you, it wasn’t easy.
I didn’t know if we were gonna make it at times,
But holding our relationship through the lens of a spiritual path was EXACTLY helpful, the right medicine…
and we did it by ultimately staying open, asking the right questions, listening humbly for answers, even if it was after difficult moments, which…let’s face it.. are going to happen.
And I know it’s not easy for you either.. at least not in this place..
But that you want SOMETHING… that thing that gives you more space, a deep exhale of AH, and the knowing you are each individually and your journey together is HELD with exactly the support it needs.
That is what relationship as a spiritual path can DO for you..
When you have a spiritual path, you feel held in practices that grow love, perspectives that increase presence and meditation that grow awareness. These are things you can DO, right now and they are ALL so useful for growing Hot Sex, Love and Closeness…. it’s like you have a compass to guide you and a HUGE net to catch you when you get stuck.. and when you have that.. you feel closer, more connected.. you overcome stuff easier.. you get back to loving easier…. and this is why getting support is such an IMPORTANT step because it helps you get connected to this (even if it’s feeling unclear how you’d get there right now).
And you can learn to create it for yourself.
And..I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.
What’s ONE thing you want to see different in your relationship this week?
