I spoke many times about how no one taught me how to have hot sex, love and closeness relationship, I had to learn myself. Maybe you had to figure it out for yourself too…
I mean literally, I was starting from the scratch, undoing mountains of trauma and family ancestral healing work, coming into a relationship with my own body, my own heart, my own free will and my deep longing to not only share love but also receive it as well, not the kind of love that is a child seeking a parent unconditional kind of love but deep mature and hot, sexy, love, intimacy and closeness.
Fortunately, I attracted a partner who was willing to do the same kind of work and as you can imagine there were so many deep soul lessons in store for us that we had no idea about when we first got together.
The issues come up as you know they do, and sometimes you need contexts and you just don’t know how to organize things. Sometimes it’s about emotional intelligence like I talked about a few weeks ago HERE (https://www.facebook.com/joanna.intara/posts/10158043514850555).
And sometimes it’s about learning healthy regulation as I’ve shared before. Sometimes it’s about practical things like date nights, taking breaks and family rituals.
And other times, and this has probably been the hardest part, it’s been reckoning with the deepest soul lessons that brought us together so we could resolve those and release even deeper, our creativity and purpose out into the world, and our family.
There were times that were so hard that I felt like quitting, giving up and just going back to single life. I didn’t have the resources to do this, let alone do it well which was required to be successful.
I felt lost, hopeless and depressed at moments when I was confronted with the sheer volume of inner work that was needed in order to heal and become fully whole and functional and trauma-free, so that relationship could function really easily.
Definitely, there were times when my hubby wanted to quit as well, and he would say, ‘There’s just so much here to address’, as he was feeling overwhelmed much like myself. I really didn’t know what to do at times, and sometimes when it was really hard, I got down on my knees and asked the powers that be.. what the lesson was, what was the soul lesson?
And in that inquiry, and in that openness I, and my husband, we both asked what were the true soul lessons…even if we were in pain, in the shadow of doubt…we kept going with asking.. Letting go of knowing anything..and then…
– Revelation would happen,
– opening would happen,
– answers would come in.
And the more sincere our inquiry was, the more truth was revealed.. Our soul lessons…
And when we applied those.. Boom, our love grew, our intimacy flourished.. And sex became even more amazing..
And still there’s work to do. I’m not over here in a castle eating bon bons and pretending anything. I’m right here with you, doing the work every day to create the relationship I want and enjoy. You get to have that too.
Are you in to get your soul lessons clear, even through the challenges? (especially through them so you can convert them into the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness allies you need to bring you all the way into true balance and connection.)
If you are, gimme a shout out… so I can send some good mojo and a spiritual flashlight of love your way so you can be even more resourced.
And.. I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is really working hard to address the soul lessons that are coming up in their relationship, and know there has to be an easier path… Get on this while there’s an opening.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.
