Every day people send me private messages because it’s so intimate to speak up on these posts.
Even my own coach said she wouldn’t comment on these posts because they’re so intimate…
But everyone faces intimacy edges in their couple’s journey…
You want to know how to make it easier…
How to feel more connected…
And what’s going to help restore connection so that emotional issues can be easier?
But if you don’t learn how to be self-aware, how to have empathy and how to regulate the overwhelm that relationship can bring up,
then you won’t ever feel closer, more connected and happy.
Practice this.
Write down the top three things in your relationship that are bothering you right now.
You can do this alone or with your partner.
Now, take each of those three things, and see what happens when you;
– bring the deepest of empathy to them. (i.e…..I can really feel how hard it must be for you when you’re sad, upset, etc.)
– take FULL responsibility for regulating your own overwhelm about them. (i.e….Whatever stress I am having, I seek out, find and practice meeting those stresses with every resource I can find that will help them be at peace)
– and bring this self-awareness to your partner.
It CAN’T stay the same.
There is always more room for all these things in our tender spots.
And if you do this, for the rest of this week…
I can pretty much guarantee that there will be a relationship shift in the direction of closeness and intimacy.
If you’ve decided to no longer settle for the way it is, what’s ONE thing you’ll commit to practice even if just ONE of these things?
For me, I’m going to start with empathy. I’m going to bring it to even the smallest of places. I can’t wait to see what happens.
Now it’s your turn.
