We all want love.
In all the forms it can be – presence, acceptance, compassion, sex, closeness and understanding…all the healing balms.. all the elixirs of Hot Sex, Love and Closeness which are so mission-critical important for healthy partnerships, especially when you have children.
But honestly, it’s very rare that anyone I knew came into adult relationship knowing how to do these things.
We simply are not taught…or if we are, we weren’t taught super well.. and I was no exception, growing up in a household that made space for all the opposite energies of love; conflict, disconnection…I spent many nights wondering what other homes looked like in terms of growing love.
I fantasized about how to value love.. how to feel it.. and how to creatively curate it for your real-world… that you go through, no or low level love moment problems… the kind any of us can be susceptible to getting into any time.
And then I set about to grow it.
And it was painful.. it hurt… I felt so lost.. and disconnected from the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness that I desired..
And my hubby too.. he had similar struggles… and we got to adult relationship and were like, “OMG, how do we do this better, and become closer, and more intimate.”
And I’m glad I was persistent, because it paid off BIG TIME.
And it was a battle sometimes between love and the energies that were OUTSIDE of love.
Those were the hardest moments of all… cold, sad and painful!
Know what I mean?
And we had to work at it.
And learn how to
- grow love to be a resource for us, to catch us when we fall and to be the home we always come back to.
- to recognize when love was missing.
- so that we could come back to it as quickly as possible.
I remember a night, actually many nights..where he said something that upset me…and I used to get irritated when I was upset.. so I got irritated…and he got annoyed…and that was painful..BUT because of the work I did here, we one day had inner CONTAINERS, that could hold us… the could carry us..
- INTO connection and OUT of disconnection.
- INTO a shared universe, one made out of love
And we turned the corner on that one…too.
We had to open our hearts even more.. to our desires, to the parts that needed healing, to the little ones within us that would run the other way.
And while it pushed us.. it was so worth it..
Every commitment we made, every time we valued the growing work of love and the awareness to keep it, so we could return to it more easily and simply all the time..
THAT was the gift.
The same one I want you and my clients to experience…
So that you can have all the Hot Sex, Love and Closeness you desire.. even if you haven’t been having it lately..
Hope is not lost..
But you’ve got to start somewhere beautiful soul…so what ONE thing will you do to growing love with your partner this week?
I’ll give you one recommendation in the comments! And if you feel a little too vulnerable commenting, feel free to PM me!
This is gonna be good.
I’ve got ONE spot open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness in their love relationship..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help with in your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.
