Author: Joanna Intara

You know those times you chat with your inner circle friends in relationships, or maybe you’re in one yourself, where there’s a lot of love there, but there’s trauma and yet there is a desire to be conscious woke?

And then there’s this moment when honesty happens, late at night, and there’s sharing of just how hard it’s really been. Full transparency. No matter which turn is taken, trauma and unsafety are oozing out of pores everywhere.

And truth comes, that they or you, don’t feel safe or good most of the time, and even more concerning, don’t know how to, but that’s all that’s really wanted… just to feel good and safe.

Like my client Sheryl.

She loved her husband Matt very much.

They were smart. Million dollar earners. Very intelligent. Brilliant.
They knew they wanted to be conscious about their relationship.
And they knew they were walking through a difficult passageway, but it wasn’t permanent.

How could they {and you} go through this work and know how to feel safe and good even while processing such overwhelming material?

But everything they had tried had failed; hypnotherapy, regular counseling, affirmations, NLP, cognitive behavioral therapy, life coaching, angel readings, mindset work, Buddhist practice, channeling and more.

Have you had that feeling?

It’s frustrating and hard because you know you’re smart and bright and you just need the right kind of support.

But what is the missing key?

What we did was very specific.

We targeted some of the particular points of where the sense of unsafety and not feeling good live in their body and lives, and especially in their relationship hotspots.

And because I’m the Intimacy Alchemist– I helped them awaken the power of the ‘feel good’ center through their body pretty quickly, and learn how to distinguish past traumas that happened in the there and then, from the present moment of the now. They faced their fears, safely, one by one, always while feeling in control.

All of this happened while continuously grounding the body, it’s sensations and impulses so deeply in the present moment that do you know what happens?

The feeling of management and regulation of oneself and the energies we are dealing with start to become embodied and tangibly felt. No longer do you have to stay feeling overwhelmed, or unsafe. There is a divine feeling of the riteness of ‘right now.’ and the past memories become easier to manage.

Can you imagine what a relief this is when you are knee deep in the trenches with your beloved, and you know it’s trauma, and you’re on the liberation path, but you just want to learn how to feel better while you do it?

To feel an easier ‘yes’ in your gut, to what’s really going on.

In my presence, this is what came through for Sheryl.

She felt safe, able to connect to her feel good center easily, become more resourced in the riteness of the here and now, able to face her fears with her hubby together, but this time, do it consciously and safely, instead of creating more drama-trauma.

This ability is worth it’s weight in gold when it comes to your relationship. And both of you need it when navigating conditioning and karma.

Especially if there are ancestral traumas or personal traumas that we all know, after the honeymoon period, are likely to surface… so that they can be finally healed in the embrace of love and presence and wisdom.

I’m seeing this activation of not feeling safe everywhere. With Covid, the elections, and extreme unrest all over the world, people are not feeling the same level of safety as before. This brings up all the unsafety imprints like never before and most of us have them.

And the one place they usually come out MOST is in a romantic relationship.

And they won’t go away, until we release them like Sheryl and Matt.

This is exactly what’s possible for you – the ability to finally control how to feel safe and how to feel good, no matter what you are going through. And to do it in a way that is grounded in your body, and that actually is sustainable, not just an ungrounded workshop insight that dissolves once the weekend is over.

And the space I hold for this unfoldment to happen is exactly my magic.

If you’re interested, I have two spots open.

Send me a message.

So many people try spiritual ceremonies, meditation practices, crystal healings, cognitive insight, NLP, medicine ceremonies, code healing for their relationship but really have a hard time turning the emotional disconnection that made them seek those practices into soul-satisfying love.

How would you like me to make that simpler for you?

Let’s let it be easier.

1. Whatever insight, a-ha or image you get is wonderful and awesome. I’d ask, where does this land for me in my body? How does my body show me, ‘the codes’? How does my body give me the a-ha? Where in my body does my soul live?

This is really important so it can actually have a chance to be rooted and grounded into the foundation of your being, so all these things can have a chance to truly grow. Right?

You wouldn’t attempt to build a skyscraper from the top down would you? So your human self needs a solid foundation as well.

2. Once you know where it lives in your body, {the insight, the idea, the crystal healing, the medicine ceremony insight, whatever the form takes} ask THIS. HOW does it live in my body? Does it move? Does it have sensation? What kind is it? Is it hot? Is it cold? Is it tingly? Is it prickly? How does it move?

This is so important because when you do this you start to ground and root your experience in the field of your nervous system which is ESSENTIAL for anything peaceful in your mind and heart to function well from there.

3. And once you know WHERE it lives in your body, and how it lives in your body via the language of sensation, then there is the ability to be PRESENT with it, and see what happens. Just notice that.. And keep noticing that.. And again, see what happens.

Presencing things in the body gives us foundation.

Foundation gives us roots.

Roots give us a strong base from which to grow everything else.

LMK, are you going to implement this?

Drop me a YES in the comments.

I have, and I tried it many times and failed and wondered why.

Look, I know in the coaching world, there’s tremendous focus on insight, the ‘codes’ and transcending away your challenges through meditation, leading with soul and other spiritual methods.

They’re not bad methods in and of themselves. I like many of them, a lot! Do you?

And yet, contrary to what you’ve been told by other love mentors, that these methods are everything, that that’s all you need for your relationship, that if you just get with your soul and everything else flows, THIS is really what you have to do instead.

If you want the real abundance that is promised to you, you HAVE GOT TO ground all these wonderful methods DEEP into your body and nervous system. One at a time. Ground up approach. Does that land for you?

And honestly, the world of healing, coaching, therapy and spiritual work doesn’t even come close to integrating this yet, so I want you to release any self blame or inner judgment – It’s truly not your fault. Please?

The real impoverishment is not being TRULY grounded in all places. And then innocent people, full of good intentions try implementing things, and then wonder why it’s not exactly translating really well.

But you know what? It’s learnable. And with the way I work, it happens very quickly. Let me show you what I mean.

Just yesterday, a client was blaming herself for not being evolved enough in her relationship. She had tried all the things the industry told her to do; mindset work, cognitive therapy, breathwork, NLP, meditation and coaching. She felt like a failure.

Within minutes of us sensing into her throat and shoulder areas (her sensitive spots) space opened, constriction released, voice had access, and she could breathe fully for the first time in her whole life.

Micro attunement to the subtle shifts in presence, flow, space and being all taking place and more of these qualities opening. Answers about her relationship being EFFORTLESSLY revealed and grounding happening in the most important areas for her, her voice – so she could make actual use of all the resources she had.

Finally, she felt grounded – and after the session said she felt like a river of water had cleared away the cobwebs over her voice and helped her feel like she had landed in herself.

Grounded, clear, resourced in her body, able to return there any time, space inside her shoulders, flow inside her voice, ease in heart and it WASN’T AN IDEA. It was for real grounded – the thing she had been missing.

Wouldn’t you like that for yourself?

And then all the real integration could happen DEEP INTO HER MARRIAGE, from spiritual work, from coaching, from medicine journey’s, coaching, and all the other modalities you’ve invested in.

Have you ever wondered what would happen to the coaching world, the yoga world and the spiritual world if this missing KEY was integrated? The greater shifts that would be possible would be beyond EPIC.

Now THAT, is seriously soul shifting, life-changing, and beyond the beyond.

This is exactly what I do and the magic I create with my clients.

If you are interested I have two spots open.

Send me a message.

I’ve witnessed a lot of people look to medicine journeys (which I have deep respect for) as the be all – end all when it comes to transformation, hold it as the great and ultimate problem solver, clearer and the ultimate way.

I’ve also observed some of the same people, including facilitators, really have a hard time in the integration process, feeling extremely discombobulated and wonder how to ground the magic they saw in their transcendent visions but then how to bring that into every day relationship with the people that matter most to them – their partners.

Like my client Sheila and her husband Rob.

They participated in one ceremony after another for a couple of years, trying out different people to work with, but not having the grounded expertise to know what was needed to bring the magic into everyday life.

By the time they found out about me, they both were feeling very ungrounded, dysregulated and in anxious, everyday conflict.

They wondered how things had gone so awry.

They had meditated, done yoga, received mindset coaching, eaten green smoothies and made sacred intentions. Not only that, they had tried massage, mainstream therapy, tried neo tantra, movement practice, and all had failed, miserably.

They were at the end of their rope, ready to divorce and they had a 7 year old.

What I did that was different was help them to deeply transform their visions into a grounded, embodied in the here and now nervous system.

One by one, each vision, each insight, each spiritual a-ha – all good things, but ungrounded can create unsafe feeling chaos.

• Everything presenced in the body via sensation to start with.
• Integrated into the nervous system from the root of the body and up.
• Transforming the overwhelm from intense states into something manageable, one moment at a time.
• Letting that foundation rebalance the heart, voice, mind and intuition systems naturally.
• Restoring instincts, through a grounded nervous system, not as an idea or unanchored (however well-meaning) intention.
• Bringing embodied love into all those places.
• Rediscovering true identity and feeling a solid sense of self.
• And celebrating the magnificence of who you are spiritually but through a foundation of true embodiment, roots and the matrix inside to truly support and sustain it.

This was just to start honestly… but it made ALL the difference.

They realized after a couple of months working with me that all of this….HAD BEEN MISSING.

Not one of the teachers, shamans, etc. had any of these skills, and they had felt re-wounded and catapulted into distress, trauma and chaos because of it.

With me, they felt deeply grounded, clear, rooted, in control, balanced in heart and body, easy access to clear (not muddled or cloudy) intuition, at peace and ease, access to love whenever they needed it, residing in their true identity, and a high degree of self love they hadn’t had before.

For Sheila and Rob, their anxiety was replaced with ease, disintegration with integration, discombobulation with true presence and groundedness (utterly non conceptual), and the best part for them, such a deep level of embodiment of their visions with true somatic support that their relationship is reaching a new level of soul satisfaction that they’ve always wanted.

This is what it is to truly have a rock solid foundation and the peace that comes from that can feel like. And it’s needed all across communities all over the world who are doing this work.

This is exactly what I can do for you as an Intimacy Alchemist and the undeniable magic I create with my clients.

I have two spots open right now.

PM me if you are interested.

In one form or another these are the questions that keep me on my toes each and every week with my clients.

Allow me to make this more simple.

1. Learn to tolerate and open to the entire range of vulnerability that comes up for you and you both in your couples journey. Get support for how to do that. Widen the window of tolerance that makes it manageable and an exploration rather than a place of avoidance or anxiety.
2. Be transparent WITH compassion and empathy. A much needed skill if you’re going to do a relationship successfully. We’re not taught to do this and it is very often a learned skill that is not negotiable.
3. BE responsible for examining and owning your own triggers. Identify when you feel activated (usually when your body state changes). Be willing to name them and own them in a good way with your partner.

I wish they had a class in high school for all these instead of the silly little eggby project where we had to carry around a hollowed out egg to teach us about having a child, LOL. It would have made my twenties relationship journeys much better.

Are you going to implement this?

Drop me a comment if this is something you are going to do?

It’ll be THIS Instead.

I’m fired up about mindset this week because almost every relationship client from the online world talks about it almost immediately.

They wonder why they failed to solve relationship problems with mindset, no matter how hard they tried.

I wish they didn’t beat themselves up so hard about it.

The answer?

Hint: It’s not your fault.

Contrary to what you have been told by other love mentors that you have to focus on mindset, keep it pumping with positivity all day long, don’t be negative otherwise you’re miscreating and more like this..

THIS is what you have to do instead.

You’ve GOT to put your focus on learning how to regulate your nervous system in every place where there is emotional disconnection between you and your partner.

Look. I know how hard you’ve tried to think positive thoughts.

To pivot from what you see as negative emotions to be happy in love.

You’ve been to traditional couples therapists.

You’ve tried meditation.

You’ve been to medicine journeys and had some great highs, but no real integration afterwards (super common).

It’s not that you haven’t made a herculean effort or been diligent or hard working.

You have!

You just haven’t been empowered and supported in the ways that you really need to experience the soul satisfying love, sex and closeness you’ve been deeply desiring.

Please, release yourself tenderly from self blame, and get curious about how to embody what you need on a far deeper level.

I should know. I was stuck in this trap for years.

I went to one mainstream psychotherapist after another with my relationship issues. I tried Jungian, Internal Family Systems, Coaching, Mindset, NLP, Spiritual Practice, Reiki, Mindset.. And almost ALL the major couples therapies too.

And it was ONLY when I experienced very skilled nervous system regulation in the care of a skilled practitioner did some of my deepest relationship disconnection challenges start to unwind, unravel and finally release.

Very specific patterns were targeted deep in my body, in the language of sensation.
> thoughts, ideas and beliefs, located in the body
> feelings, emotions, moods located in the body
> upsets, disconnection, conflicts with my hubby all located in the body

And then, they were held, presenced, flowed, resourced, managed so I could tolerate them, and slowly, they unraveled, unwound (like untightened but you’d think maybe I was saying unwound like get not injured. (funny how they’re the same spelling.. hmm..)

Honestly, the freedom I’ve had to now create the soul satisfying love, sex and closeness I’m having had been beyond epic, beyond ideas and without a doubt waaay beyond mindset.

This is what’s possible for you.

This is the type of powerful work I facilitate for my clients.

If you are interested, just send me a message.

And here’s exactly what you need to be doing instead.

One of the things I notice repeatedly in my powerful women clients who want a deep, satisfying romantic relationship, is the constant focus on needing to have an amazing mindset.

It’s talked about as the Holy Grail, dripping with ‘code’ instructions, alignment only with soul, and other spiritually awesome sounding slogans.

Maybe mindset works better in business, but it’s doomed to fail in romantic relationships.

There’s a far more efficient path to get you the love and acceptance you want from your partnership so you can relax and have romantic relationships work FAR easier.
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My client Jacqui is a very powerful woman and has been with her husband for 8 years and she wanted a baby so badly. Not having one was stressing her out and causing fights and disconnection from her hubby.

She was a business coach and shared that she failed many times at using mindset.

After working together, and literally rewiring her nervous system from the root of her body up, she then realized that she had not been able to have any womb space open enough and relaxed enough that would allow this precious baby she wanted to come in.

All this time she realized she had much unrest in her sacred womb, turbulence, much of it ancestral, and she had been pivoting away from her body, in what I call the ‘manic pivot’, into her mind and mindset and she now saw how much that had failed her.

Her womb had been tight, contracted, ungrounded and unspacious.
We constantly worked with these sensations and patterns of movement.

I helped her relax into the sensations and bring massive amounts of presence, support, awareness, compassion, movement and space RIGHT into them.

When this, a big unwinding of all the blockages to these qualities started to unfurl. These obstacles were not only hers, but from generations passed.

This allowed her breath, movement, fluidity, excitement and most of all in inner spaciousness that had been missing.

Now it was relaxed, really open, free and full of pleasure.

And this is exactly what was needed to allow a little spirit to come all the way into her body and nestle in her womb, helping her have the baby she always wanted.

And soon, after years of trying, I was elated to get a text message that she was pregnant and gave birth to little Sequoia three years ago. They’re pretty cute to look at together, and my eyes are teary just sharing this with you.

Jacqui’s desire to manifest a baby is just one example of what I see people go through. When you don’t have the space inside yourself, your womb, or your root, and you’re feeling stuck, how can anything you truly want to grow?

The only question is what do you need space for? What do you want to grow that truly has a foundation that will only result in success and manifestation?

This is exactly what I do and the magic I create with my clients.
– Help rewire trauma to allow for creativity
– Curate the exact culture, inside and out that helps you create exactly what you’ve been longing for
– Release the judgment from the mind or mindset failure that releases pressure and encourages a simple relaxation that makes manifestation easier than you could ever think
– Create safety so deeply in your body and the very root of your being so you’ve got the foundation to fulfill every dream you’ve got

This is the type of powerful work I facilitate for my clients.

If you are interested, just send me a message.

I am, and have always been the in the deepest part of me, Inanna.. Queen of Mastery of the Underworld, who returns to the world after her descent, full of power, love, creativity and leadership.

But somewhere along the way, as I dealt with all my humanity and trauma, I lost touch with how powerful of a manifestress I truly am.

At 18, I had some pretty clear visions of working with people, in ways that are only coming together now for me, as I turn 48 this Sunday.

And these visions became my prayers.

They started at 21, and I remember praying so deeply to God to be of service, and even though I was unbelievably overwhelmed with my life, I kept asking to give me just what I could handle and that I had just the right amount of ‘inbox’ space available for the perfect clients for me.

At the time, I was working 50 hours a week to support my education.
And seeing 25 clients a week for no pay.
And drinking triple espresso’s every morning just to keep up.

But I had these visits with God often, talking to God, and trusting in God to provide for me and hear me at a time in my life where I felt so alone, impoverished and unsupported.

At the time, and every time I spoke to God, new clients came in.  And on and on, my relationship with God changed, and the face and name I gave to God changed as I deepened into deep spirituality studies for most of my twenties.

While other kids my age were out at bars, getting drunk and going to raves…and dropping E.

I was at home, studying, sleeping and praying on how to be of service.

And God answered my call for support each and every time.

When I risked letting go of my assistant job and needed exactly 6 clients per week to replace the lost income, and after I decided it was time, the next afternoon there was literally six referrals in my voicemail with clients who wanted to come see me at the exact same hours I had open and available.  

My client roster became full, and my friend asked me what my secret was.

And in the end, the only truth that I can point to, is that I was ABSOLUTELY sincere in prayer and devotion, with every cell of my physical body, and every morsel of my soul, that this will of mine, shall indeed be DONE.

In fact, so many clients came that I was able to refer many to my friends and colleagues and help them fill their practices as well.

And so I continued on…

Until I decided I was ready to go bigger.

Which was a soul prayer I had…

I had gotten comfortable, a little too comfortable.  And while I was always learning, I felt the private practice model was limited, and that there was more for me in addition to that.

So I ventured on..

And that soul prayer brought forward all the NEW issues that were in the way of my next level dreams coming true.

And I met the love of my life.

Got married.

Bought a house.

And had kids.

The soul-blocking sh$t hit the fan.

And my disbelief in my self was everywhere.

And I forgot my prayers.

And intentions, and the fervor of them, the sincerity of them, the absolute freakin’ certainty of them.

Until today, I realized I have come full circle.

And I take my

• intentional
• devotional
• prayerful
• mystic-ful
  SELF.. all the way back.

And begin again.. but at a whole different octave of my same soul song.

My trauma is A LOT cleared.

My inner resources are strong.

And my fire is back.

I am who I want to be.

I am a fucking brilliant supernatural superstar.
A master healer and bridge builder.
An amazing artist, writer lover, mother and friend.
And a brilliant, ingenuous business woman, visionary and change-maker.

What I didn’t know, was that my bigger visions for my life, brought forth ALL the traumas that would have to be cleared and I can’t see for anyone I know, that it happens any other way.

But if I had stayed comfortable making really good money, comfortable in my one on one only private practice, without a next-level vision,
who knows if I would have ever encountered those traumas.

I feel like someone needs to hear this today.

And if it’s you, I see you, I gotcha…and I truly am with you.

I share about our relationship wins and big-time triumphs and they talk and speculate. 

They say, “She’s SO lucky, how did she get that, we had no idea she was up to this…wasn’t she just a country woman who lives in Sonoma county and has some cute kids?”

How did she really do it? And create a life, and business that works with those who want a Hot Sex, Love and Closeness, even while having children, and do it well, and be abundant, and have time for what she wants to do?

We went through normal therapy.  It sort of worked.  But sort of didn’t.  We tried body work, reiki, cognitive-based approaches, NLP, shamanic methods, forgiveness work, ancestral healing to give you a sense.  But that didn’t heal the trauma even though we worked our a$$es off.

…and last year, it all came to a head.

We received the most nuanced attachment level trauma support, because the wounds were so ancient, so old, even before birth, (and no one is talking about this) THAT WENT WAY BEYOND ALL OF OUR PREVERBAL PATTERNS, STRAIGHT BACK TO CONCEPTION.  We saw what was in our field (the surrounding energies) at that time and the conception field is so potent because of how it impacts our thinking processes going forward.  Let that sink in.  Keyword.. Conception. 

We threw ourselves into that work deeply, ALL the way. 

We saw what had been playing out…on the most primary of levels; imprints from when we were just tiny sparks of light coming into human form, arriving into our respective mother’s womb.

We applied ourselves, heart, body mind and soul to THIS place.  We were devoted, not to mention relentless about liberation, and passionate, and to bring all this to this earliest of places, was life and relationship changing.

And everything started to fall into place.

It was like the thorns got removed from our space, even the very deepest ones.

We integrated what we found.

Lots of discussions.  Lots of empathy.  Lots of ownership all around.

We leaned into our extensive team of support, which is what it takes.

That part was completely non-negotiable.

And then we kept feeling our new peace,

new peace through our mind
new peace through our hearts
new peace through our bodies
new peace through all the conversations…
and lots of new creativity

And we became new people. 

It just happened.

Lots of stories and relationship-old projections fell away.

And we let go of the deepest resistance to the most acute vulnerability. (C’mon you guys, we are talking preconception, a zygote and it’s needs, what’s more vulnerable than that?)

And we put so much of the challenges we’d had, in context.

Because hello, how we are conceived, is how we conceive.. (yes.. all the thought structures can come from here.)

And it happened easily.

And we hired more support.

And owned our bigger love.

As well as our bigger dreams.

Our next level desires for intimacy. (ooh)

And expanded our body’s capacity to tolerate the sensations of even more closeness. 

We addressed this work every day.

And that was with kids, and two self-employed businesses, not easy to do for those who know.

And at moments the vulnerability ripped us tenderly open into even newer connection.

That we enjoy even more because of the sweetness we have now.

And if you’re wanting this kind of breakthrough reading this, that will get to the very core of the disconnection you’ve been experiencing, you’ll have to do your own version of this work, getting to the roots of conflict between you two.

I’ve opened up one spot (https://freecallwithjoanna.com/) this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship…..even if you haven’t been having it for a while… get on this while there’s an opening.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

I’ve been thinking about all the black sheep out there… especially right now.. and really, our ‘crowning’ time is now.. we have been getting ready to lead during insane times.. and we’ve had all the training we need…

And right now…the BLACK SHEEP are the ones that have already been through so much adversity and trauma in their lives, that many of them are saying like me, ‘we were made for times like this..’ because we are.. and we’re strong, and we’re courageous, and it is now our time to lead.

As Bert Hellinger stated…

This Is For All You BLACK SHEEP Out There!

“The so-called ‘Black Sheep’ of the family is, in fact, seekers of liberation roads for the family tree. Those members of the tree who do not adapt to the rules or traditions of the family system, those who were constantly seeking to revolutionize beliefs, going in contrast to roads marked by family traditions, those criticized, tried and even rejected, those, by General, they are called to release the tree of repetitive stories that frustrate entire generations.

The ‘Black Sheep’, those who do not adapt, those who scream rebel, repair, detoxify and create a new and blooming branch… countless unfulfilled desires, unfulfilled dreams, frustrated talents of our ancestors manifest themselves in their rebellion looking to take place.

The family tree, by inertia, will want to continue to maintain the castrating and toxic course of its trunk, which makes its task difficult and conflicting… that no one makes you doubt, take care of your ‘rarity’ as the most precious flower of Your Tree.
You are the dream of all your ancestors “.

Who’s with me?

UPDATE to include finally finding the artist, Jeremy Enecio
https://jeremyenecio.com/#/maelstrom/